[skaterkid314]

the other say after quitting zoloft i felt so much better.. everything was going great.. got out for the weekend and skated with friends and had a great time.. and just when i thought i was going to be ok my ex and her friend played a joke on me.. saying that she wants me back and to find out it was someone else playing a prank on me for her.. even after i said "please tell me this isnt a joke you know how much i love you.." they still continued to get my hopes up.. i cant get over her no matter what any of you say. we broke up in april and i havent had a day since then that i havent missed her. i cant keep going through this pain before i know it im going to end up having a heart attack or something..

[Leed]

That was a ROTTEN thing for anyone to do! I hope they feel really good about themselves,. I hope they like making people miserable. Maybe someday someone can do the same for them and return the favor! How cruel -- how utterly cruel a thing to do! Do you know WHO did it? I think I'd send them a little note and tell them "Thank you for being so very cruel. I've finally found who I think is the rottenest person I know." And just sign it "Sincerely,"

Maybe you can think of something better to say in the note, but the purpose is to make them feel really crummy and guilty. They shouldn't have done that -- it wasn't nice at all. Maybe I'm being elementary in wanting someone to send a note, but i think they should KNOW how much it hurt. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[everything]

Leed's right, that is rotten. I hope you can try to move past them. They don't have you in mind and you don't need to have them in mind. Some people are really a drag on us and we have to move on and find others.

I think you should go skating more. That's what I did in high school. Got out of a terrible job, I was pissed, so I skated from one end of town to the other (small town, it wasn't that hard where I was from)

Skating rules, do what you love, let go of the people dragging you down.

[Snowy83]

I agree with what Leed said, karma is a b***h and you can bet that they will be treated cruelly in the future. What you are going through will pass eventually, with time passing, it will make you forget and heal. When you look back one day like I did, you will ask yourself "why I loved her so much back then? Was I blind?". Trust me, you are now just in the middle of it, you will get through it okay. And stay away from those scum, take this as a lesson of how to protect yourself better in the future.

[everything]

Also, I don't agree at all with making them feel bad about what they did. That's escalating. I would suggest avoiding this problem (not all problems!) and letting them go away. If they are making you feel bad, why would you want to return that favor? Think about the harm you might be doing to them with retaliation. All kinds of metaphors for this: eye for an eye makes he world blind, violence begets violence.

Plus you'll be living in anger and you'll be exacerbating your discomfort.

[jelly-bean]

I'm agreeing with Leed too. There's an old saying, "What goes around comes around". It will come around again and those who are guilty of hurting you that way will find themselves onb the receiving end of the pain.