[Rhapsody]

Do any of YOU every have this problem......

That coming here seems to make you sadder or more depressed at time? That talking / reading in here cannot help? - just wondering for I am having a really hard time lately and nothing seems to make a difference, not even my dear friends at Psych Central (crying).


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[pegasus]

You have been through so much.

I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time.

Having feelings can be very painful, but it is better to have feelings than none at all.

Perhaps only read stuff that will lift you for the moment, and go back to the more difficult stuff when you are feeling stronger.

I personally find that Psych Central really helps, especially for depression.

Much love.

[Sabrina]

I am really sorry that you are feeling so down. Yes, there are definitely times when I avoid certain forums as I may not be feeling strong enough. Sometimes a little isolation, if it means keeping yourself safe, is good.

Please keep yourself safe and protected. Again, I am really sorry and wish I could lift your sadness.

(((Rhapsody)))

[Rhapsody]

YES.... this forum is a great place to be and it has brought me some very good help and healing.... and that is why I wondered if others ever felt like I was right now - having odd feelings toward about such an awesome place.

> > > > Maybe I just need a break.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

You are not the only one. Only this morning I read a thread I wish I hadn't... I guess it is bound to happen that some things trigger painful emotions.

If you feel this is a recurrent problem, maybe you could take a mini-break?

Hope you feel better soon.

[Rhapsody]

It is probably just me and my wounds trying to come out.... guess my body is ready to do some more healing, with or without my permission - lol.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Valis]

Its understandable, I suppose, that sometimes reading the anguish of others can make your personal emotions come out.

But the very fact your still trying to reach out rather than reach away is something positive to be said.

Hope you feel better Rhapsody.

[Sabrina]

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How profound!

yea sometimes I come in and a post mentions something that triggers me. But the way I see it no one is forcing me to read each and every post and thread and no one can prevent triggering another person. For that you need to know each and every persons trigger and given that there are infinate numbers of ways of abusing someone and infinate number of triggers and what is a trigger for one may not be a trigger for another its impossible to avoid triggering someone.

For example One of my triggers is a certain mens calogne and my friend who was also sexually assaulted has no truble with mens calogne. her trigger is bath towels. Im afraid of the dark but another friend prefers dim and darkness.

So its basically up to each of us that comes here to decide as we come in what we are able to read and what we are not able to read that day. If something starts bringing me down I know that its time to lleave that post or thread for a bit and or leave the site for a bit and do other things - visit other websites, take a walk, go biking and so on to help take care of myself.

and when absolutely nothing is making me feel better I contact my therapist because those are the times when I should be contacting real time help - I may need medication or something burried may be coming to the surface or the last session triggered or stirred something up.

On line support groups are great and can help as in being a resourse tool but they are not meant to be used IN PLACE OF seeing a therapy professional.

Any forums - including Psych Central - I have been on contained a disclaimer label to this effect and stated when in crisis the person should instead be contacting their local professionals.

[pegasus]

.......and also Psych Central has many tools to help us feel safer.

pegasus.

yea this site contains an option called "ignore button" By clicking on the persons name and going to the bottom of their name and clicking on "ignore this user" the person no longer has to read posts by that person. I don't know how to set the ignore for the whole thread other then reading the subject line index and not entering threads that may be upsetting.

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((Rhapsody)))))))))))))))

Absolutely! Everyone at times may need to take "mental health" breaks as I call them. I did that with therapy a few times too.

Even though something can be GREAT for us (i.e. therpy, forums) doesn't mean that we can be 100% all the times for these things.

Make sure to always take breaks as needed and know that we'll be right here when you are, and always sending thoughts your way...

KD