[therealme]

these are the rants of a sad man

why do people say.
" smile it cant be that bad "
" you will soon get over this "
" if your depressed , why are you laughing "
" cheer up "
" come on its not that bad "

i could go on but you have probably heard them plus more. !!!

why do people have to shove their good mood in our faces, when (as the doctor said) im a little bit sad.....

also why do people you have told you are depressed say
"i understand "
" if you commit suicide i will kill you "

rant over for now

[Yaowen]

I can TOTALLY identify. I used to like sitting on a bridge and watched the river flow by but people kept stopping and asking me if I was depressed. Or . . . "are you ok?" Now I bring an old fishing pole with me. The line doesn't have any hook or bait, but it least it stops people from perennially getting the wrong idea.

[Fuzzybear]

Hugs

[MuddyBoots]

I get that it's frustrating, but try to understand that people really don't understand and they're just trying their best to uplift you because they're confusing depression with sadness and think a joke or a "smile, it'll be okay" will pull you out of it. They want to help; they just don't know how.

[therealme]

i was told yesterday to " snap out of it", by my mum
i feel another rant on the way.......
why cant she see that it is her fault i am going though most of my problems.
my therapist told me if my mother had listened to me and / or believed me when i was younger, that i would be in a much better state of mind ( not saying i wouldnt be still here)
so if she tells me to snap out of it again, im going to go medevil on her....................... well thats my rant over with for today

[Exoskeleton]

Originally Posted by therealme

i was told yesterday to " snap out of it", by my mum
i feel another rant on the way.......
why cant she see that it is her fault i am going though most of my problems.
my therapist told me if my mother had listened to me and / or believed me when i was younger, that i would be in a much better state of mind ( not saying i wouldnt be still here)
so if she tells me to snap out of it again, im going to go medevil on her....................... well thats my rant over with for today

I'm so sorry. That is an incredibly unhelpful and infuriating thing for your Mum to say to you. This is such a pervasive problem: people who don't understand depression (or other mood disorders) getting frustrated and saying ridiculous things to people who have depression and other mood disorders. Ask her if she'd tell you to snap out of it if you had food poisoning. People have to understand that this is an illness. You didn't ask for this. None of us did. We are mostly doing the best we can, and to be told by anyone, least of all close family members, to snap out of it is just the pits. It really is.

Even if you don't understand mood disorders, even if you don't know what to say to someone who has one, even if you feel frustrated with your loved one, that is never an excuse to invalidate their experience by suggesting they can just chose to feel a different way.

It is incredibly sad that there are still so many people who don't even believe that mental illness is real. And yet, every time someone in the public eye takes their own life, there is almost always this outpouring of, "oh, that's so tragic, if only they had talked to someone, if only they had reached out for help" blah, blah blah. Yet when people are still alive and actually are reaching out for help, it's all, "oh, just pull yourself together, it's not that bad, snap out of it". So messed up!!

Anyhow, rant away. We get it. And again, I'm really sorry your Mum said that to you.

[AzulOscuro]

Yes, there are people who has the same sensibility of a stone.
Maybe it’s kind of her feeling guilty. And this is the way she shows it.
There’s a strong defence mechanism by which people are in denial.

[therealme]

why do we bother,
yes its me again , moaning , about his life............. sorry i just feel alone, in a crowded house, full of family and friends.... and it will only get worse when christmas arrives
my life sucks