[Grey Matter]

I had a really great day. I had an interview for a live-in nanny position and the parents seemed to love me, and the infant also seemed to enjoy my company. For the first time in months, I finally feel confident. Like something good might happen. Like I may actually get a chance to experience what "normal" people my age experience. I was so happy I actually didn't find socializing with a friend after to be exhausting, but comforting.

Then, someone I consider a best friend basically ruined my confidence. Telling me they are "concerned" about the job. That it seems "weird". And I was wondering if they're concerned because of ~me~ or truly the job. This isn't my first time being a care-giver. I know what I am doing. I am intelligent. And when I defended myself, telling them they don't need to worry, I was told passively "Do what ever you want."

I don't GET the concern. I don't GET why they couldn't just support me while reminding me to keep a balanced head. Instead, they made me second guess everything. They made me seem incapable of making my own choices. And it's frustrating.

I get concern over health, over situations, but concern over a job choice? It's not your life. So I /will/ do what ever I want, thank you.

None of it makes sense.

[pegasus]

Good luck!

I'm glad the interview went well I'm sorry about the other thing. Did the friend have any explanation for the concern?

[Little Lulu]

Good for you for making your own decision. Someone once told me that what others think of me or my decisions is none of my business ... initially that idea offended me. Now I find it a comfort.

Its hard to guess what your friend meant by that..the omly thing I can think of is how parents are anxious to leave their kid in anyone's care - whether you or someone else. Even when you have experience being a caregiver, many things can go wrong (especially with younger children) and their kid means the world to them So I wouldnt take it personally.

[FeelingOpaque]

Maybe your friend doesn't understand how that comment would affect you and how you normally feel compared to how you now feel. Sometimes people who aren't depressed just can't wrap their heads around it, so they say things that hurt us even though they don't mean it and are trying to be helpful.

Good Luck on the job and normalcy!