[missminnie]

I honestly hate going home. Its a ball of negative energy as soon as you walk in the door. People tell me what I am and who I am and what I can and cannot do and what I am and am not capable of. I've been told I'm very mature for my age, very responsible. I work for a small business. My boss at work has promoted me to a supervisor, so I work with money, doing up the pay and such. I also tell the employees what they need to know, do some training, etc.

My parents still don't believe that I'm allowed to be at work without an "adult". They tell me that I don't know what I'm doing, when I obviously do. Why else would my boss put me in this position unless he/she knew i could do the job. I'm not a kid, I drive, I pay my gas, I make my own food, I do my own laundry, I am responsible for buying everything that is mine, I am moving out at the end of this year, and they think that everything I do means nothing, even though i'm probably more responsible and independent than they are, they say I am not. Its frustrating.

They won't let me do certain things and don't ever give me a reason. I feel like they are holding me back from success and from becoming even more independent and responsible. Its like they line me up for failure. Its embarrassing and extremely frustrating and makes me depressed because i can't do anything about it, and it makes me question whether or not i'm actually good at what I do, or if i am the way they say i am. It really bothers me.

I was just venting here but I hope to get some feedback, thanks guys

[optimize990h]

Is there some way of setting boundaries so things are turned into a more positive way? For example, if the goal of setting boundaries is met or progress is made that goal appears to be achievable, then you clarified your position and maybe their position.

I hope that means they would understand you better and give you credit for your achievements and responsibilities.

I guess the main goal would end up understanding each other better with a bonus of mutual respect.

That's just feedback for you to consider whether it would be useful in your situation or not. Take what you like, leave the rest behind.

[bharani1008]

I think maybe your parents are living in the past and don't see who you've grown into. They just see the child, not the young adult. Or maybe they are threatened by your success and fear losing you.Whatever their reasons I am glad that you are able to objectify their reactions a little and see that you are an independent, responsible person. Hang in there and keep doing what you are doing. Once you get out on your own you'll probably feel better.
Just keep posting and let us know how you are doing.