Does anyone feel like they don't belong here?

cinnamonstick · Jun 13, 2016 at 07:59 PM

I had this great realization that I DON'T want to fit in. It is empowering, and the people I have seen out there, YUCK! We can have our own crew. Fitting in is overrated. Let's focus instead on how amazingly unique we all are!!!!!

cinnamonstick · Jun 13, 2016 at 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by sophiesmom

"I don't fit in anywhere either. Far too sensitive for this world."

This struck a cord with me....Thank you

Sincerely,
Ridiculously Sensitive Sophiesmom <heavy sigh>

Have you read The Highly Sensitive Personby Elaine Aarons (I think). It is nice and validating.

TrailRunner14 · Jun 13, 2016 at 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by cinnamonstick

Have you read The Highly Sensitive Personby Elaine Aarons (I think). It is nice and validating.

Thank you for posting this book.

I feel this way too when things get too much to deal with. I highly suspect that I am highly sensitive and it hard to fit into a world that is not.

I do have hope that I can help the part of me learn that with boundaries and safe places, it will be ok.

I do agree that I really don't want to "fit in" to a world that is not safe, but I do feel like I'm here for a purpose.

Thank you for starting this thread. That is actually the name of a part of me and it was encouraging reading the posts here.

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tgwwtl3 · Jun 13, 2016 at 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by shattered sanity

i feel that when it came to me, their was some kind of mistake

i was born without the knowhow or the ability to cope with life and it's problems, and here i am, not even halfway through life wishing i never existed

sad state of afairs.. so yes, i don't belong here

I know how you feel. I know it may seem hard to believe but you do belong. As cliche as it sounds, I think we all belong here for some reason even if we don't know why or feel like the world would be better off without us. Its been harder and harder for me to remember and believe that though lately.

tgwwtl3 · Jun 14, 2016 at 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by ImNotHere

I have never fit in anywhere, I am not good at anything, I have no friends, every time I try to fit in anywhere I do not. I don't understand why I fit no where in this world. I feel like i do not belong here and that I have no place. Does anyone else feel this way?

I used to want to belong and to just be normal, now I just hate the world. I view the world as being filled with terrible people who I cannot understand and I do not understand why they do the things that they do or think the way they think. I don't understand or like to live in a world where child abuse happens, or people murder each other, it drives me crazy.

I feel like i have no place in this world or like I wasn't meant to be here. Can anyone relate to this?

I can totally relate to this and often still do. For along time I tried to get involved with different sports and activities and they most worked temporarily except for one. About 9 years ago I got involved with theatre and I have never stepped foot on stage as a performer. I have also been involved and interested in the technical aspects. Not only does it continue to keep me so busy I can't think sometimes, it connected me to a lot of other people that felt like they didn't have a place. It brings together people that feel lost and isolated and gives them a place and a pretty strong support system.

But unfortunately it has not been that for me lately and I am losing hope again faster and worse than before.

stanleyslife71 · Jun 17, 2016 at 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by ImNotHere

I have never fit in anywhere, I am not good at anything, I have no friends, every time I try to fit in anywhere I do not. I don't understand why I fit no where in this world. I feel like i do not belong here and that I have no place. Does anyone else feel this way?

I used to want to belong and to just be normal, now I just hate the world. I view the world as being filled with terrible people who I cannot understand and I do not understand why they do the things that they do or think the way they think. I don't understand or like to live in a world where child abuse happens, or people murder each other, it drives me crazy.

I feel like i have no place in this world or like I wasn't meant to be here. Can anyone relate to this?

Hello I am stanley.

I feel the same i feel like people do not understand and even the people who do care about me because I like to care and help people but sometimes people act very selfish and do not appreciate what I do for them at times I feel like im out of place like I am not in their picture. and yea I can relate some teachers and therapists have told me the ones who do not fit in are unique and the most special. but I do want to be a part of something and I feel like I am not being part of anything yet i have friends but they are not there for me as they used to alot people let me down and its fine i do not expect it. but I feel like I need assurance that i do feel belong.

enigma001 · Aug 20, 2016 at 11:11 AM

Sadly ive felt this way to. I felt i never felt i fitted in since i was in year 9. Felt like i was a square compared to triangles. I did drugs and smoked to try to fit in bit didnt work. I am what i am and it wont change. I will never fit in

enigma001 · Aug 20, 2016 at 11:43 AM

At my lowest i feel theres no good in the world and that it deserves to burn

Always Hurting · Aug 21, 2016 at 07:58 PM

I just read all these posts. I can relate to everyone here. I don't connect with people. I never fit in anywhere. I feel alone in a crowded room. I am very awkward socially and being in social situations gives me much anxiety. I have grown kids, I talk to them. But I admit I have a lot of trouble communicating. I have two small dogs that I spend most of my time with. I start a job tomorrow so I am feeling very nervous about that. My severe depression and other issues keeps me secluded in my home. I feel safe in my home. I don't feel safe in the world. I'm sorry to hear that you all feel this way. Just know you are not alone.

Onward2wards · Aug 21, 2016 at 10:33 PM

I love this thread. "Does anyone feel like they don't belong here?" ... avalanche of agreements ensues! I guess this is a common feeling. I believe there's an optimal niche for everyone, the trick is getting good at finding more compatible minds and situations.

As for the (also apparently fairly common) feeling of being "too sensitive for the world", maybe the truth is that the world itself could use an attitude adjustment. Maybe it's not you after all. Have you ever looked at the comments section for online news stories? How many times do we see comments like "I'm trying hard not to lose faith in humanity now", or "Okay that's enough internet for today - back to bed." etc? Sometimes the world really is messed up and needs some improvement.

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cinnamonstick Member Member Since Oct 2015 Location: Cleveland Posts: 165 9 256 hugs given	Jun 13, 2016 at 07:59 PM #21 I had this great realization that I DON'T want to fit in. It is empowering, and the people I have seen out there, YUCK! We can have our own crew. Fitting in is overrated. Let's focus instead on how amazingly unique we all are!!!!! __________________ "Great things are done by a series of small things brought together." Vincent Van Gogh
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enigma001 New Member Member Since Aug 2016 Location: south australia Posts: 2 8	Aug 20, 2016 at 11:11 AM #27 Sadly ive felt this way to. I felt i never felt i fitted in since i was in year 9. Felt like i was a square compared to triangles. I did drugs and smoked to try to fit in bit didnt work. I am what i am and it wont change. I will never fit in
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enigma001 New Member Member Since Aug 2016 Location: south australia Posts: 2 8	Aug 20, 2016 at 11:43 AM #28 At my lowest i feel theres no good in the world and that it deserves to burn
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