[robflee23]

So recently, I've been longing for my crush at an insane level. So much so that it makes me cry like a baby. The only problem is, this crush is my celebrity crush WHO IVE NEVER EVEN MET. I know I only what my mind portrays about her, but I cannot get this thought of me needing her in my life out of my head and it is driving me absolutely insane. Anybody have any advice at all?

I don't know.....I think that you have to change your thinking from "crush" to obsession.

And it needs to be addressed by a professional so that it doesn't rule your life.

Celebrities are real people, but our minds 'fill in the blanks' until we see them the way we want to. In other words she's an illusion.

[robflee23]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I don't know.....I think that you have to change your thinking from "crush" to obsession.

And it needs to be addressed by a professional so that it doesn't rule your life.

Celebrities are real people, but our minds 'fill in the blanks' until we see them the way we want to. In other words she's an illusion.

exactly. i just sometimes get really obsessed with that illusion,

[paynful]

She is the embodiment of your "ideal" ...of everything you want. You probably can't let her go, because she symbolizes everything you want in life, but can't have.

You feel safe in knowing that you will never have what you want (or turned down because of it), instead of going after a relationship with someone in your life. You could be disappointed in real life while your celebrity crush is a fantasy.

Giving up the "crush" is equivalent to giving up your dreams. Although, you know rationally that she is a false ideal, your feelings feel very real, and knowing that you can never have those ideals (her) thwarted makes you feel safe in the illusion.

My best advice is try to figure out/define which traits appeal to you... maybe, ask yourself why those specific attributes apeal to you... and then, look around you.

There are real people surrounding you, real people (women). Women who possess those traits. There is no reason why you can't/won't be happy with someone who is available and real... and who wants you back. Don't be afraid of the possible.

However, I don't know you and that is just my best guess. I know how painful it can be to feel that lonely, but please, feel free to ignore me. I hope you find answers soon.