[Jawbone263]

Just wondering if anyone has advice on how to cope with crappy work days.

Here's what happened: had to remind/reprimand and employee for repeated failure to do his job correctly lately (lots of careless mistakes). I was kind but firm. He's been there longer and is older than me and felt that he was overlooked for supervisor spot. Normally I have a thick skin at work and try not to bring stuff home with me on t's advice. Today I heard said coworker saying not nice things about me to his wife after our discussion, he then ignored me, didn't speak and basically pouted the rest of the day.

I'm generally sensitive because of the depression - additionally I have a hard time with conflict due to anxiety. I'm really hurt by his actions and what I heard him say. Not sure how to deal with my own feelings and sense of feeling like, why do I even bother? What do I matter of someone is just saying mean things? Why can't I just have thicker skin about this? I wasn't this emotional while I was taking meds but since I've been off them I find I am much more apt to cry or get angry. Coworker won't be there tomorrow so I don't have to deal with it til Thursday.

I walked on the treadmill when I got home felt a little less stressed but not much.

Has anyone else dealt with these feelings? How do you cope with them? Tips tricks advice? At my office running to the restroom crying is probably not the best option although that's what I'd like to do. I'm almost thinking of calling in sick Thursday to avoid it all together (I'm off Friday anyways).

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[kaliope]

can you accept that you are having a perfectly normal reaction due to your anxiety and depression so no action is necessary. your coworker is just being immature because he cant take responsibility for his actions and you are not responsible for that. your feelings are only being hurt because of your mental health issues. like you said, if you were on meds, you would be able to handle it. so just pretend you are on meds and let it go. act as if.... and go about your ordinary life as if it doesn't bother you. you did what was right. don't feel bad about it. take care.

[hvert]

Try to remember not to take it personally. His reaction to being told that he needs to improve his performance is to take it out on you. That has to do with him, not you. It's not your fault he keeps making mistakes.

Easier said than done, I know! The treadmill sounds like a great idea -- what about taking a walk in the middle of your work day, like at lunch?