[circaamor]

I keep reading that to find a good job you try to make a living with what you enjoy doing. To find what you enjoy doing you go out and be social and find people with similar interests.

It all sounds nice and easy but I have realized that I don't have passions or hobbies. I can't meet new people because my brain doesn't work like that. I'm overwhelmed with self doubt that I fear small talk. It's to the point where I don't even go to family parties in fear of looking like a loser. I don't have things I enjoy anymore. Even things like hanging out with friends has me feeling overwhelmed with boredom and anxiety like I'm wasting time until the next work day.

Every single day I come home and check out mentally, play video games, and wait for the day to end.

I also can't afford to see anyone for professional help because healthcare in this country is completely f'd up. Not to mention that it's impossible for me to bring up this personal stuff to strangers I do not trust in the slightest.

What do I do? Any help at all?

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Hope someone can provide some suggestions. Sounds like a sticky sitch. :\

I'm afraid the only thing I could suggest is to see if there are any support groups of freely-ran organisations that could provide some support.

Hi circaamor,

I can understand where you are coming from, and I agree that making a living from what you love is a good idea. But it's not always realistic.. Just putting that out there... I also don't agree that finding what you enjoy means having to be social... I started doing glass work (making pendants and other jewellery) and I didn't start doing that from talking to people nor finding people with similar interests. I just did it because it was what I decided to do... I thought I needed something new in my life and just went for it..

I know that you said you have no passion or hobbies, but you can change that. Have you ever thought of doing some online courses that might help spark some interest? There should be some free ones around. Can you maybe find a list of different hobbies and pick one at random and see if you like it? This doesn't necessarily have to be hobbies or anything that are done with other people...

If you can't afford to see anyone, as mentioned before, freely ran organisations would be good. Maybe take a look at some self help books too. It might give you some ideas on how to challenge these thoughts.

Sorry I can't be much help to you, but I feel for you. I know your situation is hard.. I'm struggling with particular aspects of what you said, too.

I wish you all the best.

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Originally Posted by circaamor

.....I'm overwhelmed with self doubt that I fear small talk. ....

Now THAT I can relate to. One of the things that I hated most in life was having to attend work related gatherings (IE Christmas party).

ARG - mindless small talk. "Whats new" is two horrible words to hear.

I do not know if this works for you or not.... (I hope so)..... But about 18 years ago (after being fired) - I started "consulting". Which basically meant that I did the exact same work but moved from company to company.

Here is what I listed as pros and cons when deciding to take a chance on being self employed......
++ You get paid a LOT more
-- You have no guaranteed income
++ You can control your work hours (somewhat)
-- Searching for the next client is very daunting
+++++ You NEVER have to attend a work Christmas party again.

It worked for me. Best wishes to you.

[Fuzzybear]