[sdcg76]

First up if you reply please no negative comments as I am already depressed, thanks.

I have only been married for 2 months and I'm already thinking of divorce. I just had a baby 3 months ago so that's been the only good thing that's happened. I have an 18 year old son from a previous relationship and I raised him all by myself which of course wasn't easy, however for the most part he's a good young man. We've had our battles of course but he has apologized and I have moved on, however my husband hasn't. He came into our lives 2 1/2 years ago right at the time when my son was being a pain in the butt and he doesn't understand why I don't kick my son out since he's 18 now and he feels my son isn't doing things to his "standards". He feels he's not getting a job fast enough, but he is trying unlike hubby he stopped looking awhile ago. I'm not kicking my son out. Hubby has shown the ugly side of him now with a temper, which he says is because of how he was raised and having ADHD with no meds and since we're married now he no longer has to keep quiet about things my son does. It has become so bad I had to kick hubby out (his apt. is across the street) because my son was defending me because hubby was talking bad about me, so he got mad and tried to fight my son. My son went to the prosecutors and a hearing is scheduled. Hubby feels he's done nothing wrong but his temper is out of control. I am at my wits end. He finally got insurance to get back on meds but I wonder is it too late and too much damage been done to save our marriage. I don't want to be a single mom again but I deserved to be loved and treated with respect, as does my son. Anyone else have a similiar story?

[Nammu]

I don't know what to say. Is he agreeable to marriage counseling?

You might try posting this in the relationship forum as they might have more ideas.

[winter4me]

Better you know and can deal with this now, instead of months/years from now. Sorry this happened to you. A friend of mine had a similar situation. She stuck by her self, and her son. Take care.

[shabur]

You may want to ask your husband if you can go to his next dr appt with him to talk to the dr about your concerns and how long the meds will take to kick in. Can you expect improvement? I would hate to see you end a relationship that can be fixed with some therapy and his meds.

[glok]

"Would you be better off with him or without him?" ~Ann Landers

Hello, sdcg76. If treatment does not resolve the issues you face, you have a decision to make.

I wish you well.