[jazzbella18]

So this is going to sound weird, but tonight is the first night I am alone. I have either been in a group home, residential treatment, or living with my parents. My parents are giving me a chance to see how I am on my own and I am so nervous. It was just a couple of days ago and I was struggling and I was staying at my parents. Me staying by myself needs to work, so then I can move out of my parents house. I am really scared I am going to mess this up. Does anyone have good advice to help me so I will not screw this up like I have in the past?

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome to you, Jazzbella18, and also to Bella.

I'm not sure I have good advice for you, though I think I see three overlapping challenges:

1. Living on one's own in general
2. Living on one's own with seizure disorders
3. Living on one's own with mental illnesses

There's no guarantee that #2 and #3 will be more difficult than #1. If you can master the skills required for living on your own in general, then that will make the rest all the easier.

Seek all the advice and instruction possible, and make liberal use of the Internet as you have access. Pare down what you have to deal with at this stage of life to minimize distractions. You are studying nursing, yes? That's important, though not more important than your personal safety and health.

Wishing you success and more practical advice than I can offer...

[TheDeepGreenSea]

I was pretty worried once I moved out ~6 years ago. What happens with me is I think I'm fine and then I dive into something head first. Then suddenly my brain switches to "NOT OK! NOT OK! NOT OK!"

I spoke with my parents daily. I got pretty depressed for a while and wished for the past. To be honest, it may have been a lot easier if I had figured out that I shouldn't focus so much on what is better or worse, but instead just note and accept that things are different as they come along. Then, it's a little easier to make adjustments on how to adapt to each difference. After a while once you've noted a bunch of the things that are different and have a kind of mental "plan" for each of them, it's not scary anymore.

It stopped being "what do I do if X happens" "how do I not freak out" and started being "If I get really sad, I can go to the gym at any crazy hour I want and listen to a cheesy pump up playlist beforehand since I live on my own now."