[Marshellette]

in 2011 LASIK destroyed my vision. I can still see but everything is bright and glarish and filmy and moves a little when I blink. Should I give up dating, should I give up going out? I have been rejected so many times when guys notice there is something weird about me. I blame myself for this unnecessary some say cosmetic procedure to help improve the function of my eye.

Hi Marshellete, I'm very sorry for what you must go through with your vision. It would be very difficult, I don't know how I would deal with it but no, I don't think that is a reason to give up dating. I'm very sorry to hear you have been rejected because of this. .. but I would think that if a guy doesn't go out further with you because of your eyesight problem, he must not be too decent of a human being in the first place.

You shouldn't blame yourself for this, it's not a cosmetic procedure at all. Many people do it to fix their vision. The person who messed it up is to blame, not you. I'm sorry you feel that way. Hope things start going better soon. There have to be a few decent men out there.

[AllonsY]

It's not your fault, most people I think would do it were it free.

People with things that would seem far more inhibitive end up dating just fine - I'm a chronic worrier and I know what it can be like to be in a mindset of worrying about something like that, but if you're just you - believe me, you'll find someone.

Also - I'm in like no good position to say this 'cause I'm not doing well myself, but something's telling me to recommend you "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. Good book - I actually haven't read all of it, but I've seen tons of videos of him on youtube, and everything with him is about presence, accepting the now and such (I think the book name sounds a little too self-helpey, myself, it's good stuff). I dunno - I get this feeling it's something you should check out if it sounds like it could be helpful. If not, well, figured I'd throw it out. Should probably take my own advice.

Best of luck - remember - all of us here support you, so you aren't alone - and you'll find someone when you least expect it (it almost always works that way for some reason).

Obstacles in life seem to be pathways to wisdom once we crawl our way through the pain and frustration, no? Just one step at a time, one breath at a time

[TheDeepGreenSea]

I don't see any reason to stop dating with that. I don't think that would've stopped me from dating anyone.

Are you up front about it? That might kind of help it be more like just another trait rather than something you're trying to hide if they don't know what it is.

It's hard for girls dating right now in general I've heard btw. A bunch of my friends have gotten back into the dating scene and have said tinder has just made everyone terrible.