Feeling Alone and Depressed.

Hey, Im new here and this is the first time I've posted. I just really need support and people to talk to. So let me just tell me story. Almost 3 months ago. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. I am not over this at all, if anything im worse. I still talk to him sometimes. He just wants to be friends now. Says he doesnt love me the same way. Our relationship was just different.It wasnt like most of them. We wanted to get married someday. I want to have a family with this guy. I really thought it would never end. Im so broken-hearted, and i feel like I'll never get over this. When will this end? Not to mention a lot of my really good friends moved away from me and i dont normally get to talk to them about my problems. I dont have many people to vent on. I feel alone. When me and my boyfriend were together I had someone that really cared about me and who I really cared about and we could talk about anything. Now Im just alone. I am so in love with this guy. I still keep thinking we'll get back together. I cant see myself with anyone else nor do I want to ever be with anyone else. I'd rather spend the rest of my life being single than be with someone else. I just cant take this. I cry almost everyday, and there hasnt been one second since that day 3 months ago that I havent thought about him or that terrible day.Can anyone lend me support? I want to be around people who know how this feels. Thanks alot! Ally.

Lots of people in the same boat as you and lots of supportive people here. Try the chat rooms. Always someone willing to listen and help. Sincerely, Cajun

ohhhh I'm so sorry... the pain is so awful isn't it... but it WILL go away.... ((hugs))... my son broke up with his girlfriend - she actually cheated on him and had another man's baby... but he had planned his future around her... she was "the one" .... he went thru some rough times... and then he started to find other friends and started feeling better... if you are lonesome - go in chat... there are so many wonderful people here... give it a try....

Sincerely,
freewill

hi,

i am also new to this forum, you know what? people are so wonderful here. they always listen to you and give support. I am going threw in my life somewhat like you but the difference is that he is my husband,,,,,,,, i almost cry all day, depressed, do not want to do anything, sit in a dark.... but you will feel better when you visit here and write down what you feel. I am sure you are wonderful person,,, but sometimes in life it happens which we never expect..... (hugs)hold tight.....

thanks for your comments and advice. everything helps. and if any of you ever need help with anything let me know.

DO NOT STAY FRIENDS WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been twice the victim of this "but I don't want to lose you as a friend" act. It was so great for them to keep having me next to them as a "friend". All their problems were dumped on me, when seeking advice they again came to me.....but during the night times....I was the one alone in my bed. Who gained from this "friendship"?
I'm telling you, this "friendship" is the sickest, most twisted and toxic game you can play. He let you go didn't he??? Now he has to let you go! Disconnect!!!! And you'll see that the healing time will be shorter and stop hoping for a getting together!!!!! Did that as well!!!! Guess what??? It ain't happenin!!! RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN FROM THE PRICK!

Well said Valexland

agree with valexand

I agree with valexand. Why does he want to stay friends? What is the point in that? Send him the lyrics to You Keep Me Hanging On, by the Supremes. That is a perfect song for what your dealing with. I feel for you, I know its hard to break up with someone you thought you would spend your life with. I may be going through the same thing eventually myself, and not sure how I'll get through it. I Hope things get better for you.

I'm sorry you have had to go through this, but it is a learning process. You have suffered a loss, and you will go through a mourning period. Please do reevaluate why he wishes to stay just friends, and why you think he cared for you the same way you care for him.

TC

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Thanks for your comments. Actually i'm the one that wishes to stay friends because I dont want to lose him. He would like to stay friends as well, but I feel like we have to stay friends. I If i cannot have him as a boyfriend, I have to have him as a friend. How will I deal if he's not in my life? I'm so lost. I cant let go, and I dont think I ever will. I dont want to let go. I dont want to forget. I just want my life back to the way it was before. but now its done and over and there is nothing I can do to go back or change it. Deep down inside, i have this real feeling that just keeps telling me that this is real, and that we are right for each other, even though its over as of right now. I dont know if this is just me not wanting to let go or if its real. It really feels like something I shouldnt ignore. I dunno.