[penguinsing]

(I post here because I want to express my feeling of the incident, and not request for law advice) I hope the underline, the bold and the color can make one easier to understand this post and its main points. Thank you.

I am being fired. It’s about two weeks now, but I am still very hurt and depress. How hurt? It’s like being ditch by boyfriend. Why I use ditch by bf as metaphor? Things are like turning from Haven to Hell. This job I devoted a lot into it, and I was very passion. Also, things starting go downhill half a month before I am being fire. At that half month, I was very miserable. Even at that time, I work very hard to make myself more “wantable” (in an employee performance and ability aspect), I had work and plan on things outside work time. This incident really struck my confident and self esteem and worthiness.

[……."After" a few weeks, my boss she said few weeks ago, some customer complaint about me, but my boss don't know the content because it's in another language, she said one of the employee told her.
And the following Tuesday, the boss said Monday a customer get very upset, may be it's something about someone comment on her (customer) clothing,
and also someone told my boss that someone talked on the back of my boss. And about other things too.
My boss don't really know what the complaint is about, and she don't know it's about which employee, but (she said that) she thinks it's me.
…..I remember a customer wear a red top with mandarin neck style, with flower embroidery. I said that’s very nice, she asked is it too red, I said it's fine.......
I know this is very confusing because I am as confusing as you are, my boss is lack of clarity.]
(the details ….. is a long story, I don’t know if anyone have time to read it, I can pm instead)

And the (bf like) “break up” (lay off) didn’t end nicely. I wish to end peacefully, when we were going to meet at the café to pick up my last cheque. I didn’t talk much, very very less word, I just node and smile ( Esp she doesn’t like to hear what I say. Prior to the “break up’, when we talk, she got aggressive when I said I think this is unfair to me. And also, what’s the point to talk at the café meet up when things have reached the point of “break up” )

But she didn’t want to end nicely. She gave me a recommendation letter. (Even before reading the letter I wouldn’t risk using her as reference). I feel very upset, when I read the recommendation letter at night when I am at home. She just explain what I do, and not any compliment (not even anything she mentioned before) and also she didn’t mention I one of the major duty and role I had, instead she just said I am assisting (um, I was on that major duty alone, so who am I assisting?) It’s like she is making a statement, I think she write this letter on purpose. When I want to end things in peaceful way, the recommendation is like a last bullet shooting at me. Why she have to do this? Couldn’t we end things at least peacefully?

Seriously I haven’t hated someone that much (for a long time, I don’t remember last time when I hated someone that much).
I hated her so much I wish bad karma happen to her.

The details: what's true and what's not ? What's the truth behind ? it's driving me crazy.

I am deeply deeply hurt.

[Altered Moment]

I am very sorry that happened to you. That is a big blow.

[Brintel]

Originally Posted by penguinsing

(I post here because I want to express my feeling of the incident, and not request for law advice) I hope the underline, the bold and the color can make one easier to understand this post and its main points. Thank you.

I am being fired. It’s about two weeks now, but I am still very hurt and depress. How hurt? It’s like being ditch by boyfriend. Why I use ditch by bf as metaphor? Things are like turning from Haven to Hell. This job I devoted a lot into it, and I was very passion. Also, things starting go downhill half a month before I am being fire. At that half month, I was very miserable. Even at that time, I work very hard to make myself more “wantable” (in an employee performance and ability aspect), I had work and plan on things outside work time. This incident really struck my confident and self esteem and worthiness.

[……."After" a few weeks, my boss she said few weeks ago, some customer complaint about me, but my boss don't know the content because it's in another language, she said one of the employee told her.
And the following Tuesday, the boss said Monday a customer get very upset, may be it's something about someone comment on her (customer) clothing,
and also someone told my boss that someone talked on the back of my boss. And about other things too.
My boss don't really know what the complaint is about, and she don't know it's about which employee, but (she said that) she thinks it's me.
…..I remember a customer wear a red top with mandarin neck style, with flower embroidery. I said that’s very nice, she asked is it too red, I said it's fine.......
I know this is very confusing because I am as confusing as you are, my boss is lack of clarity.]
(the details ….. is a long story, I don’t know if anyone have time to read it, I can pm instead)

And the (bf like) “break up” (lay off) didn’t end nicely. I wish to end peacefully, when we were going to meet at the café to pick up my last cheque. I didn’t talk much, very very less word, I just node and smile ( Esp she doesn’t like to hear what I say. Prior to the “break up’, when we talk, she got aggressive when I said I think this is unfair to me. And also, what’s the point to talk at the café meet up when things have reached the point of “break up” )

But she didn’t want to end nicely. She gave me a recommendation letter. (Even before reading the letter I wouldn’t risk using her as reference). I feel very upset, when I read the recommendation letter at night when I am at home. She just explain what I do, and not any compliment (not even anything she mentioned before) and also she didn’t mention I one of the major duty and role I had, instead she just said I am assisting (um, I was on that major duty alone, so who am I assisting?) It’s like she is making a statement, I think she write this letter on purpose. When I want to end things in peaceful way, the recommendation is like a last bullet shooting at me. Why she have to do this? Couldn’t we end things at least peacefully?

Seriously I haven’t hated someone that much (for a long time, I don’t remember last time when I hated someone that much).
I hated her so much I wish bad karma happen to her.

The details: what's true and what's not ? What's the truth behind ? it's driving me crazy.

I am deeply deeply hurt.

I can understand somewhat. My serious depression began after I was fired from a job I loved. It was my dream job and dream salary. I will think of you often as you are healing from this.

[woundedsoul]

I'm really sorry that you lost your job. I lost a job once also for something I shouldn't have, and then they screwed me out of my unemployment.

[Fuzzybear]