[waterknob1234]

I decided to post to complain about my world. I am tired and stressed. I feel a little guilty for posting this because I know there are others out there who are going thru much worse things than I am.

I suppose I just feel like I have too much to do and not enough hours in the day or energy in the body to get everything done. In a way I go thru some of this every holiday season. My job gets busier, and then there is all the cooking and activities to do for others. Never mind the Christmas shopping.

Work has been terribly stressful because they are packing so much into our schedule. I am so far behind in so many tasks it is scary. Then I am supposed to help my daughter with her rummage sale tomorrow. Stuff to do never ends.

I heard that some idiot fool says that a certain amount of stress is good for you. Ha!!! The person who came up with that idea must live a coddled life.

Anyway, so much for my ranting.

[healingme4me]

((((Waterknob1234))))

No need to feel guilt, everyone may have different life experiences, yet, doesn't diminish the effect that your life, is having on you, right now. Stress has a downside, can wreak havoc on your health, not just emotional health, but physical health, as well. Sometimes carving out even small moments for yourself, is the kindest thing, you can do for yourself.

[Fuzzybear]

[Frankbtl]

Hi waterknob, I know it's so easy to get swept away by things until they become so overwhelming, so absolutely try to make some time for yourself......and schedule it in to the exclusion of anything else. Nothing wrong with saying "I can't" at times, you can only do so much, and you do need to put yourself first at times too.
Now all this stuff you need to do for others...........can you have them doing a little more for themselves or otherwise some (more?) things for you?? Even if they're only "little" things, they can add up. And you know, maybe you can scale down some things for the season??

But really thoughtful of you offering to help your daughter with the rummage sale
Maybe if you find yourself helping out with some things like that you could (if you're not already!!) be helping out on your own terms e.g. "I can help.......but just for half an hour or just with setting up, or just with (and insert an easier part of the task to help with)" and that's still helpful, it just relieves a bit of the pressure on you.

But hey, if you want to rant to us...........anytime, OK??!!!
And DO NOT feel guilty about it, we're here for you!!!



Alison

[Idiot17]

((((((Waterknob))))))

[Clara22]

Thanks a lot for posting. To me, it is not about your world, it is just about world. We have been domesticated since the beginning, our lives do not have much space for creativity or spontaneity. We need to earn money to buy things that are supposed to make our lives easier but then we get trapped. We are supposed to reproduce some patterns of happiness as commercials and movies portrait, but our lives do not resemble those, and then we get unconsciously frustrated. Sometimes our world is so ridiculous at least for me. Sometimes

[waterknob1234]

I appreciate all the kindness from all of you. I got some help with things today. My husband volunteered to help my daughter with her rummage sale. So I spent today cleaning the house. My son and his girlfriend are coming over for thanksgiving and I couldn't stand for the house to be so dirty when we will have company.

I was so tired today that it took me all day to do cleaning that should have only taken 4 hours. A few times I got into a mental fog, rather confused and could not remember what I was doing. I hate that feeling. I was getting that way when the doctors had me on Topamax for migraines.

My daughter has been separated from her husband for a year now and they plan to get a divorce. They only married in 2011. I really liked my daughter's husband and this whole thing is upsetting to me. However, it is not my life, it is my daughter's and if she and her husband don't do well together that is their business and not for me to meddle in or fix. The whole affair just makes me sad. I will feel better tomorrow as I have church. I won't have too much time to think.

[Frankbtl]

Hi waterknob, thanks for the update, and hope you're managing to take things a bit easier today!!!
With the cleaning..........for the future, shouldn't be any reason why your husband can't do his share, right??!!
I mean, you work, stressful job, you're going through a lot........and equality, right??!!
But really well done on getting done what you did!!! Even if it would have otherwise taken you four hours.........that's still A LOT of cleaning, nevermind that it took you the day as well!!!
And, yes, it is your daughter's life..........and I'm sure you want the best for her, so if she's taken the shared decision that this is for the best............
It's one thing to be looking in at a marriage "from the outside" but something quite different living in it day in day out, week in week out............so maybe the decision they've made under the circumstances is going to allow them both to be happier in their lives in time.
Just the bit about not meddling though............just because she's grown up doesn't mean she might not still appreciate advise/guidance from her mom at times, so although this time may be different, in the future if you feel you need/want to "step in"/give her the benefit of your knowledge/experience don't necessarily feel you should hold that in, hey??
And this time, I guess maybe the best thing you can do is "just" to try to be there for her.

Alison

[Anxious Minds]

I read a book earlier in the year that changed the way I viewed eating. I honestly can't remember the title of the book, but what I took away from the book was to:

Cut out caffeine entirely.
Cut out processed sugars and only get sugar from natural sources (honey, fruit, etc.)
Start taking glutamine and a multivitamin every day.

I did those three things and wound up losing 30 lbs and noticing that my energy levels have greatly increased. At one point (when my diet was at its best) I walked 11 miles one day on a trail in the mountains.

If you want to increase your energy levels, you have to take an assessment of what you are putting in your body. There are some foods that are literally poisons to those of us with anxiety and depression issues. I'd heard people tell me this stuff for years, but I was always too hardheaded to listen to it. Don't know why it took me like 11 years to get it through my skull, but now that I have the experience of what happens when you really change your diet, I can definitely say from my experience that it works.

[Altered Moment]

Boy waterknob1234 that job it seems is really wearing you down. You can vent all you want here and it is totally valid. You are always there for everyone else.

[lonely-and-sad]

I can relate. I made pretty dramatic improvements to my health with nutrition and supplements. I didn't find excluding caffeine did much.