[ljneedhelp]

My brother and I are both dealing with deep depression in different but similar ways. We need help but can't afford it. Just over the weekend for the 2nd time my brother has tryed to commit suicide and though it has crossed my mind I have not attempt. We have many issues we are dealing with coming from our up bringing. My mom and dad split when we were young . We were not raised in a very loving household. The word love was never used. Hugs and kisses was never given. Though we knew because of the way they worked hard to provide for us they had to love us they just never showed it in that way. Now we suffer from showing others. As bad as I want to I don't date scared of love . Don't know how to trust. But I beat myself because I am so lonely ad it's my fault. On the other hand my brother get in many relationships and the girls love him but he physically and verbally abuses them and have admit to them he don't know how to love. Now being pushed to the point that his first born has been taken away from him for the child safety. Now he is ready to end his life. My brother and I don't have the best of a relationship because we don't know how to be caring. My mom doesn't talk to her family my dad doesn't talk to his and we were raised in a state away from our family so we don't know our aunts uncles and cousins too well. So we are disconnected and go months and months without talking to each other and we are hurting and don't know how to handle it don't know anyone who can give us professional advice on how to deal with this troubled life.

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[puzzclar]

That's a lot to deal with. Recovery from depression is possible, but requires lots of work and time. It's not an over night thing.Recovery is a life style, it is something that you do to support your mood. I would start with exercise, just 5 minutes can improve the mood, and create positive energy to get through the day. Go for a walk, or just walk in place, it's something that I cheap and always available. If you have extra money, there are DVD's that can be helpful. Second, start writing to others on PC, it gives you that boast and support that you need to extend your communication with others, and hopefully start to trust more. Third, do something in Three areas (Creativity, Physically, and Mentally) each day. Something creative could be like drawing, or some sort of cheap craft. Physically was already mentioned. and Mentally could be simply reading on PC or reading a book, or Journaling/Blogging. It sounds simple but, it's hard, and adding in some sort of connection to others can change your thinking. If you need more ideas. PM me and I can come up with something that will help.

Keep your head up, recovery is possible, a lifestyle and possible... oh wait I just said that.

[ljneedhelp]

Thank so much that was really helpful =-)

Originally Posted by puzzclar

That's a lot to deal with. Recovery from depression is possible, but requires lots of work and time. It's not an over night thing.Recovery is a life style, it is something that you do to support your mood. I would start with exercise, just 5 minutes can improve the mood, and create positive energy to get through the day. Go for a walk, or just walk in place, it's something that I cheap and always available. If you have extra money, there are DVD's that can be helpful. Second, start writing to others on PC, it gives you that boast and support that you need to extend your communication with others, and hopefully start to trust more. Third, do something in Three areas (Creativity, Physically, and Mentally) each day. Something creative could be like drawing, or some sort of cheap craft. Physically was already mentioned. and Mentally could be simply reading on PC or reading a book, or Journaling/Blogging. It sounds simple but, it's hard, and adding in some sort of connection to others can change your thinking. If you need more ideas. PM me and I can come up with something that will help.

Keep your head up, recovery is possible, a lifestyle and possible... oh wait I just said that.