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Grand Magnate
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Apr 08, 2007 at 06:44 PM
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Can somebody find me some?
 I don't have a husband. Somebody else raised my kid. My family is in 3 different states. My mental health is causing me to fail at my job, and my officemate hates me. My IRL friends are hundreds of miles away, 5 months into it I still haven't met anyone in this town besides my landlady, and cyber friends -- love ya, but the odds of ever meeting any of you are zillions to one. I'm alone, I'm miserable, I'm sick as a dog mentally and physically, and I don't see one sliver of light at the opening to the abyss, way up there. What's the point?  Candy |
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Apr 08, 2007 at 06:59 PM
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i feel your pain sweetie. let me just tell you a short story. my mum left her partner, he left her in debt up to her eyeballs, she lost her house, her relationship with me isn't good. she gave up big time, no friends around her to speak of. if it hadn't been for me she would have killed herself. she has met a lovely man, has a new house and job and is in love again and he makes her feel young. you never know what's around the corner, you are going through a hard time in your life, but dont ever give up. mum was desperate and lonely and sad and didn't see any hope, she is now the happiest i've seen her in years. just hang on in there and be strong. pm me if you need to talk, i've been there myself too. i do understand how you are feeling. you are not alone love, jinnyann xoxoxoxoxo |
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Apr 08, 2007 at 07:06 PM
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im sorry you are feeling so bad but i have a reason for you to keep going.You are part of this family and we care for you and need you to stay with us.
Please hold onto hope,i know its so hard but you are not alone.  (((((((((( candybear ))))))))))
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Apr 08, 2007 at 07:37 PM
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You being one of the people here I really truly like and admire, I'm sad to see you hurting like this.  Have you tried going out and meeting people in town? I know, you've probably heard it before, but it's worth a shot. The reason or point of living is to not let the %#@&#! of life get the better of us. You're a strong person, you really are. You may not see it, but I do. Don't give up (it sounds corny) because when life keeps throwing us into a pit of junk, then we know we can eventually look forward to having it a bit better. Hang onto the hope it can get better. I care about you. I really truly do.
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Apr 08, 2007 at 08:33 PM
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__________________ You must not lose faith in humanity.
Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty. ~Mahatma Gandhi~ |
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Apr 09, 2007 at 10:23 AM
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I am so sorry you are feeling this bad, and for all you have gone through and are experiencing now. I have different circumstances but some times I feel as though I am hanging on by a thread. I have no job and no good feelings about myself, am mired in depression so bad and fear when I wake up in the morning feel so hopeless!! Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: my faith in God and His promises to me are what gets me through. No matter how awful I feel I turn to his Word and pray or call a dear friend who is a spiritual mentor to me, and I do know that I am not alone! I don't want to offend you as I don't know what your beliefs are, but if not for the Lord Jesus Christ, I would have no reason for living at all. Blessings, Olivia |
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Apr 09, 2007 at 11:16 AM
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Apr 10, 2007 at 08:09 AM
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we got the answer, Us is a reason okay we have a spare bedroom why not send a letter to the papaer company here come stay til ya find a place and then we can have a blast, putting humor and reality in this seriously "Erie Times Newspaper" __________________  A good day is when the crap hits the fan and I have time to duck. |
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Apr 10, 2007 at 08:41 AM
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I guess the reason why *I* was born is not known to me. Why that egg and sperm? I guess I need to hang around even if at times It feels I don't want too. Who am I to say when I should end my existence? That power that made sure that egg and that sperm got together is a power greater then *I*?
Perhaps we're here to help someone else? Not knowing when that day or that person will come? "no man is an Island" I dunno I'm just rambing here. |
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Apr 10, 2007 at 09:25 AM
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I know I"m glad to have found this community. Thanks for your post, mouse.
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Apr 10, 2007 at 10:11 AM
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YOU are the reason for living. Life is a gift, and it is what you make of it. You don't need a husband to make you happy ... or anyone for that matter because when it comes down to it, it is only ourselves that can make us truly happen. I know its hard, but maybe try getting out and meeting new people? Easier said than done i know, but i think that its worth it, especially if you are feeling all of this right now. Or maybe, get a pet? I know of lots of people who have been able to feel better about themselves and their future when they know that they have this little creature who needs them, and who loves them back. You are a beautiful person, and i know that you can get through this, i just know it. Know that you have many many people on here to talk to, and who care about you too so keep posting, keep talking, keep doing whatever it is that will make you happy. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME if you ever want someone to talk to ... Take good care of you, Jacq
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Apr 10, 2007 at 01:17 PM
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i hadn't really though about that..
maybe we ARE here for others, not for ourselves. we aren't supposed to be happy.. DUH. it makes sense to me now.. lol i'm not sure that it works that way, but it sure seems like it __________________  You can't always get what you want But if you try sometimes
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Apr 10, 2007 at 01:25 PM
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Candybear
I know that sliver of light it there. I maybe really teeny tiny but it is there. More importantly, we are all here for you and care about you. BIG HUG ((((((Candybear)))))) |
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Apr 10, 2007 at 01:45 PM
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i have been in that dark place myself. i hate to hear that you are having such a terrible time. i hope these words will help you....
Angels above please help me, God bless me with your grace, help find a way to leave this awful place. Shine your light upon me, embrace me with your love, give me the strength to endure, and the power to over come. I wrote that as a plea when I was exactly where you are. I would say that over and over to myself and to God. He listened. I still battle with depression but I am alive. and to be alive is to feel. You can't recognize the good in life if you haven't known the bad. try to find happiness in even the smallest things and bigger things will follow. I wish you the best and send lots of love your way. One good thing you have found is this place. Just having support and people around you that understand is a great comfort to me. |
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Apr 10, 2007 at 01:54 PM
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Prettyjolly, I'm not sure that's want I meant exactly in my post, that we not supposed to be happy. Happiness after all is just a passing emotion. I do believe we are on interdependent on each other, and in helping others we do create our own happiness at times.
I think its when I see myself as alone is when I feel at more worse and my depression can make me feel as if I'm alone. But as we know when we do express how we're feeling, others often feel that way too. If happiness is what we feel we should be feeling then we are prone to disappointment. Life is like the seasons, sometimes there's sunshine, sometimes theres cloud but it never stays the same its fluid. I will say my best times are when I'm just feeling "myself" thats a priceless feeling and if we can help someone else be "thereselve" also then thats double good LOL |
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Apr 10, 2007 at 02:10 PM
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I know what you mean..
when you are making others happy, it makes you feel like you are doing something positive and right, which i guess brings happiness. You're right.. i guess we all just expect to be happy all the time..and of course it doesn't work that way, and yea. We are definitely disappointed.. but it really is like seasons. its just so hard to accept it.. but anyway, i was just kidding .. i know we are supposed to be happy, just not all the time.. we aren't THAT deserving.. lol being alone definitely makes depression worse.. i guess being at work or school or wherever, there are other things that occupy the mind. but at home, alone, as i am now, and it's cloudy and raining.. it's just not helping. <33 __________________ You can't always get what you want But if you try sometimes
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Apr 10, 2007 at 02:36 PM
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i know what you mean. being alone most of the day myself, it makes my mind go in all different directions. i have a pretty firm grip on the past. my present is shaky & questionable at best. and i am praying continually for a brighter future. there are so many things we could all say to help you feel better, but the main point you need to see is that you have to want to get better. i know i'm new here but if you need someone to listen , then i have ears. hope you find the blue skies that are outside your window today. smile!!
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