[crk16]

I am currently going into my junior year of high school and two years ago I dated a guy who was a couple years older than me. This morning I found out that he committed suicide yesterday. My current boyfriend has a mutual friend with my ex and even though my boyfriend wasn't close to my ex, his mutual friend with him was very close. I hadn't talked to my ex for two years and I'm shocked that this happened. Even though I didn't date him for long I'm still feeling guilty about his death and wish I could have prevented it. I've been feeling bad lately and this is making it harder for me to get better. What should I do to cope with his suicide?

[RenouncedTroglodyte]

I'm so sorry That's terrible news.

I think you could only cope by not blaming yourself. You didn't allude him into doing it, he made his decision, and it is so sad that he actually did. This might be the pain of the death of someone you knew, you have memories of that person, and you haven't heard of him for years, but when you did hear about him, it was about his death, and this so much hurt and pain to deal with, and you're already depressed

Just don't blame yourself, it'll make things even harder, and you might not be able to focus on your current relationship. I know it's very hard, but I promise you, things will get better in time We can only hope!!

Take care!!

[Fizzyo]

What a blow! The first thing I must say is ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Feeling guilty is understandable and natural but not based on fact. I wish I could say something to help you feel better,but all I can do is send hugs

This is a very hard thing for you to go through. I think it's normal to have feelings of guilt. When I was in college, a guy that my sister had dated committed suicide. I remember feeling guilty at the time and going over things in my head and wondering if there was anything I could have done. I wasn't even particularly close to him. I think if we have any connection to a person who commits suicide, we will wonder if there was something we could have done. I think that's a good response - it means that we realize that we're part of the human family. Talking to people about it is the way most people deal with it. This can be friends or a counselor or therapist if you need that. Talking about it and thinking about it will help you to "process" it - a cold-sounding word, but I mean that it will help you to realize fully what happened and help you to deal with your feelings about it.

[Fizzyo]

Hi, I know this pain doesn't ease overnight so just sending you more hugs, choose what suits you best today.

[crk16]

Originally Posted by Fizzyo

Hi, I know this pain doesn't ease overnight so just sending you more hugs, choose what suits you best today.

Thank you so much I'm feeling a bit better