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Default Aug 02, 2015 at 08:49 AM
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I posted on the anxiety forum about what happened, but basically I last-minute cancelled on plans with friends because I got really anxious and nauseous about going out. This happens often. I always get nervous about going out.

So now I feel pathetic that I can't function like a normal human being, and that I disappointed everyone who was looking forward to seeing me today. And I feel so horrible right now that I'm crying, and my mom just walked in on me and I just let her see me cry and yelled at her to go away. This is a big deal to me because I try to never let my parents see me cry.

Depression is relatively new to me, so Idk what to do with myself.
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Default Aug 02, 2015 at 04:14 PM
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Is there any specific reason why you don't want your parents to see you cry? Do they know about your depression at all and if they do what have they said?

Are you getting professional help from a doctor or therapist?

Can your friends come and see you at home or somewhere where you won't get anxious?

Lots of questions, you don't have to answer them, they are just things to think about.

Support from friends and family play a very important role in recovering from depression. If it is possible please find someone irl you can open up to.
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Default Aug 02, 2015 at 08:10 PM
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It is not your fault. Absolutely. If you had a broken leg, would you feel guilty about it? And, if you cried because of the pain caused by your broken leg, would that upset your parents? I do not think so. Please, consider this: depression, anxiety may be mental health conditions and not just a temporary status. Unfortunately , people in general have a lot of problems to acknowledge that. You have the right to be taken seriously about your mental health. I am sending you a big hug

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What makes you nerves about going out?
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Default Aug 07, 2015 at 08:12 PM
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I posted on the anxiety forum about what happened, but basically I last-minute cancelled on plans with friends because I got really anxious and nauseous about going out. This happens often. I always get nervous about going out.

So now I feel pathetic that I can't function like a normal human being, and that I disappointed everyone who was looking forward to seeing me today. And I feel so horrible right now that I'm crying, and my mom just walked in on me and I just let her see me cry and yelled at her to go away. This is a big deal to me because I try to never let my parents see me cry.

Depression is relatively new to me, so Idk what to do with myself.
Hi miharucat,

If you explain this to an ordinary person, they might not understand how much stress you had to go through because of those plans. I do know cause it's happened to me too. I know how you're feeling. I know the feeling of being trapped by an invitation like that - knowing that you'll feel terrible whether you go or not.

One thing you might think about is giving your own self a break. Here's a nice video about that that I got from festidump:



For depression, I think it really helps to understand what's actually going on in your head and why it causes problems like the problems you're feeling. You might find this to be helpful:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

And here are some great healthy things you can do:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

There are many ways to get better and many things that could let you feel better.

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