[sinking]

i am desperate and i dont even know why.

i feel like my feelings are indescribable. please help!

[DayAtATime1]

I find it very hard to describe my feelings too-even to my wife. Just takes too much effort to make sense of all this madness!

[Fuzzybear]

[adam_k]

I once found this emotion wheel that helps put words with some of the feelings.

Emotion Wheel - Album on Imgur

The feelings can be multiple things at once. That can make them hard to describe.

[DayAtATime1]

Thanks Adam - I like that wheel. Simplifies things...

[sinking]

Yes, thanks adam. thatks to that wheel, i've found out i was a lot confused regarding emotions and recognizing them.

[ExhaustedMom]

I love emotion wheels. It helps me figure out the primary emotion.

Here's what I do when I feel desperate or discouraged:

I take a minute to feel the emotion. The desperation and/or the anger/frustration, so on.
Once I've put a label to what I'm feeling, it helps me figure out the primary emotion. It will often be Sadness. (Thank you "emotion wheel")

I also follow the thoughts in my head. They're all negative and sometimes I start to escalate it "catastrophisation" super fast or I simply start predicting what will happen instead of living in the moment. Doing all that makes it much worst.

I also like to use the Pocket CBT app on my iPhone to help me challenge my thoughts. Just found it this week and it's helping me reverse my thinking and calm down.