It's approaching T-Giving here in the US. I have Thursday & Friday off next week. As of now, the questions are coming. "What will you be doing this T-Giving?" I have always hated to be asked that question. I get that at work mostly. Well, I am going to be by myself, so that's what I'll be doing. I try to avoid an opportunity to get asked that question.

And when it's over, there's Christmas, and I get asked that again. I don't want to tell anyone that I will be alone for the holidays. I'm personally OK at spending T-Giving by myself, but Christmas is harder. If I asked the question back at someone who had asked me, then they would say that they'd be with their families and stuff. Like I really need to hear that!

I was invited by my friend for T-Giving. His family (son, daughter, and their sig. others) will be there. I don't want to go. I find that being with others and their families to be rather awkward. I've done it before; and the last time I did, I told myself that I would never do it again. Besides, I like preparing the dinner the same way that my family did. Anything else doesn't seem as good to me.

I am spending the holidays alone too.... hugs to you.

try and do something nice for yourself

[Fizzyo]

[Fuzzybear]

My OP may be almost a whole month old. Because that was Thanksgiving. And now we are approaching Christmas and the New Years (which is my birthday!). So once again, the dreaded question will come: "what are you doing for Christmas?".

I will be alone. It's harder to be alone for Christmas and my birthday than it is at Thanksgiving. But I feel that it's much more difficult to be asked what I will be doing than to just be alone. So I feel like I have field that difficult question. I don't know what to say. They ask me if I'm going to be with family. My family has split up and I feel some shame in this.

Do any of you have to field that difficult question if you would rather not be asked? How do you handle it? I'd like hear in replies on how you deal with those difficult questions. There is a separate thread on how to deal with the holidays alone. What I'm getting at here is how to deal with being asked that difficult question.

[Clara22]

It is difficult for me to answer that question just because people do not understand I will spend Xmas alone. They invite me to their homes and when I refuse the invitation they get disappointed. In my country, people invite you much more often than in the US and are not attached to their own plans and privacy like in the US. But this year I am inviting people to my home, hope everything turns out fine

Originally Posted by will19

My OP may be almost a whole month old. Because that was Thanksgiving. And now we are approaching Christmas and the New Years (which is my birthday!). So once again, the dreaded question will come: "what are you doing for Christmas?".

I will be alone. It's harder to be alone for Christmas and my birthday than it is at Thanksgiving. But I feel that it's much more difficult to be asked what I will be doing than to just be alone. So I feel like I have field that difficult question. I don't know what to say. They ask me if I'm going to be with family. My family has split up and I feel some shame in this.

Do any of you have to field that difficult question if you would rather not be asked? How do you handle it? I'd like hear in replies on how you deal with those difficult questions. There is a separate thread on how to deal with the holidays alone. What I'm getting at here is how to deal with being asked that difficult question.

I would answer them in a straightforward manner that I am going to spend the holidays by myself. There are times when we enjoy being alone. What say you?

Originally Posted by will19

It's approaching T-Giving here in the US. I have Thursday & Friday off next week. As of now, the questions are coming. "What will you be doing this T-Giving?" I have always hated to be asked that question. I get that at work mostly. Well, I am going to be by myself, so that's what I'll be doing. I try to avoid an opportunity to get asked that question.

And when it's over, there's Christmas, and I get asked that again. I don't want to tell anyone that I will be alone for the holidays. I'm personally OK at spending T-Giving by myself, but Christmas is harder. If I asked the question back at someone who had asked me, then they would say that they'd be with their families and stuff. Like I really need to hear that!

I was invited by my friend for T-Giving. His family (son, daughter, and their sig. others) will be there. I don't want to go. I find that being with others and their families to be rather awkward. I've done it before; and the last time I did, I told myself that I would never do it again. Besides, I like preparing the dinner the same way that my family did. Anything else doesn't seem as good to me.

I will be spending the holidays alone like you, though I live in India and not in the USA. I may be going to the movies and go out for shopping too. That's all. I live with my parents yet I mostly enjoy alone. So you can cook well too?