[BlueMerleGirl]

I just don't know what to do with my free time. Does anyone feel like this? I have posted before about being exhausted a lot and I feel like I've made some progress with that issue but it is still definitely a factor. I am a working mom and my husband stays home with our toddler right now but that might change soon. He is good with the baby but does not cook or clean nearly as much as I think he should (read: hardly at all) so that's basically on my plate too. I've found ways to manage it better, doing one small chore a day for example.

But I feel like while I don't have much free time, I don't know what to do with the time I have. I like playing with my toddler but it gets boring after a while. Now that the weather is nice I've been trying to take her on more walks in her stroller or front pack, and the playground is close so we walk there a lot. I seem to do betrer on weekdays when I get home after 5 and only have a few hours to fill before bedtime.

On weekends I get chores done and play with my daughter but after that I'm just bored. I don't even know how to spend time with my husband half the time. He is an online gamer and is always doing that. When he's doing it I feel alone. Then he gets off after I pester him but then I don't know what to do with him. Before we had our baby we used to go out to eat more and go to movies. It's like when he is offline we have to have some specific thing to do or else he will just want to go back at it. It's like we can't just exist and hang out in our house anymore. He thinks we are "together" since we aren't physically far away but when he's on that game I don't feel like we are together.

I don't have any hobbies. I try to think of what I used to do before I had my toddler and before we moved (moved 9 months ago for work). All I can think of is movies, video games, eating out, walking my dogs, dog parks, swimming, and I used to love visiting the beach (used to live closer). When I was in better shape loved skiing. And I took my dogs to training classes for a while.

But I am always tired and that combined with not having hobbies, how the hell do I even make myself do anything? How can I coexist with my husband and not feel alone? I mean he loves me and I know he wants to make me happy but I feel like he just doesn't understand my perspective. I know that's kind of vague but lately I often feel like we see things so differently it's like we are on different planets.

Right now my husband is watching the baby while I am trying to rest cuz I am so tired. I really want to play with her but I'm too exhausted to do it properly and I can't sleep well during the day cuz I'm taking stimulants. She napped while I had to run into work this morning and run errands so when I got home she was up. The thought of playing with her till she went to bed seemed like too much so that's why I am trying to rest at the moment. When I get up we might go to the playground so I guess the day isn't all bad.

[Rizzar]

Hello, BlueMerleGirl. When was the last time you had a physical. Is a referral to psychologist for an evaluation an option?

I wish you well.

Why not play video games with him, perhaps in the same room, too?
You can start from there, I think it's a great start to get into both hobbies and improve your relationship with your husband.

[BlueMerleGirl]

I see a psychiatrist, I'm thinking about starthing therapy again too (quit because I moved). Probably a little over a year since I've had a full physical but I've seen doctors for other issues, part of why I'm tired is hypothyroidism which I am getting treated for.

He does want me to play video games with him, and I try but I have a hard time getting into the game he likes even though I've played similar ones before I just don't really like playing online role playing games. Plus I don't have a lot of time to devote to it. I do think trying to play more with him could only help the situation though so I agree. Thanks guys