Me. (Insert hand-up emoji that I can't do, here) :-/

I know I can't be as bad as I think I am. I know others see me in a different light than I see myself.

I KNOW depression plays a major part in this.

If you think you're overly critical of yourself....if you dislike something you did every single day....raise your hand.

Enough people and maybe we can get a trophy or something...

I think it can definitely be a part of depression, although major self-criticism can occur without any particular mental illness. I know for me personally, I am WAY harder on myself than others, which makes no sense and is not healthy at all.

PC has helped me with this in a way though. I like posting on my exercise thread and the "positive things you've done today" thread...it helps me to see the positive things I do, and to be proud of it. I also try to be gentle to myself on tougher days where it feels like nothing got done.

[C.D.K]

I agree with this. I see myself as stupid, indecisive, and unattractive. I'm always surprised when people think otherwise Sometimes though a positive thought about myself does shine through.

[Sunflower123]

I am relentless with my self criticism. I think it is a function of my perfectionism and low self esteem. If I could turn this off so much of my pain and what's holding me back would cease to exist.

[benzenering]

Cognitive distortions mainly. Just covered this in counseling. Now that I know what they are, I need to learn to combat them with positive thinking about myself (and others as well). You know...easier said than done.

[halus1]

I do this too - I wish I could have been a better husband and have held down a job like everyone else. I feel ashamed about that. But I do think I'm a good Dad - that means the world to me.

It's also much worse when you're lying there thinking about it at night - but most things are I guess.

[bronzeowl]

*raises hand* My fiance is constantly telling me he's tired of hearing me talk down on myself. The problem is, I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes. Like, I've always been self critical. So, when I'm being self critical I don't think twice about it.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by bronzeowl

*raises hand* My fiance is constantly telling me he's tired of hearing me talk down on myself. The problem is, I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes. Like, I've always been self critical. So, when I'm being self critical I don't think twice about it.

I was recently told something similar by some smart ***. I'm sorry your fiancé is how he is

Could you ask him for specifics...and ask him to be kind and offer constructive criticism. (If he can't or won't do this then... )

And then maybe you could gently work on self

(I'm trying to do the same )

[bronzeowl]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I was recently told something similar by some smart ***. I'm sorry your fiancé is how he is

Could you ask him for specifics...and ask him to be kind and offer constructive criticism. (If he can't or won't do this then... )

And then maybe you could gently work on self

(I'm trying to do the same )

Oh, he doesn't say it to be mean. He says it because he really hates hearing me talk so lowly of myself.

I'm sorry someone said it to you to be mean.

It is really hard to work on it. I think it's just become habit for me by this point.

[MickeyCheeky]

Can I get a trophy, as well?

I seem to self criticize in every way. With the way I am personally (there was a time when my friend would do the criticizing for me!), with what I have accomplished, with decisions I have made, and with my body comparing myself with other guys - like they are taller and more fit than I am.

Also there are times when I criticize myself for being alone. Boy, I sound like a real winner!

[lotusblossom19]

Major problem for me. Major. I'm definitely my own biggest, toughest critic.

[Krow]

I cannot say that I have ever been particularly self critical. On the contrary, I am not exceptionally critical of others either, unless they step into immoral territories. As a result, I typically have nothing to blame but mere the mere circumstance itself. By no means does my self confidence lack, but in turn, it leaves chronic frustration. Even though I am confident in my own capabilities, I simply refuse to accept my performance as sufficient enough. Even if it is not solely my responsibility to ensure the betterment of this world, it always appears so personal. Even if I am merely an individual, lacking the due power to implement multinational change is simply so irritating. I have spent months, if not years reflecting upon the greatest possible resolutions for addressing the most prominent dilemmas in the modern world, yet I can hardly even speak to a single other person.