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Old Sep 03, 2017, 06:31 PM
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I said something extremely insensitive to someone close to me. There was a harsh exchange of words because they feel I'm inconsiderate in the morning whilst everyone wants their lie-ins on a weekend. But I'm too noisy because their mornings are my evenings. I have a horrible sleeping pattern where I'm asleep by the afternoon, awake in the evening -- it's a mess.

Well I was hurt they didn't seem to understand any of this. That I'm currently trying to handle my sleep issues and lie-ins aren't compulsory -- inconsiderate of me, I know.

I defend myself saying "me waking some of you up in the morning isn't anything; it's not like I'm holding a knife to your face or causing pain"

to which they respond with "yes, you are - you might as well"

SO, I say "you don't know pain"

I instantly regret it because I know that they DO know pain. Incomparable pain. So, now I just feel absolutely drained and deflated. I knew it had an affect which is why I feel so awful. I'd take it back instantly if I could. I'm sorry.
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Old Sep 03, 2017, 06:34 PM
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I think that one of the most important indications of a good human being is the ability to be sorry and to apologize if we've hurt someone. Whether the other person accepts the apology is, naturally, their "stuff"

You made a mistake. It was a harsh statement I agree but please try not to be too hard on yourself.

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Old Sep 03, 2017, 07:21 PM
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I think that one of the most important indications of a good human being is the ability to be sorry and to apologize if we've hurt someone. Whether the other person accepts the apology is, naturally, their "stuff"

You made a mistake. It was a harsh statement I agree but please try not to be too hard on yourself.

Thank you so much, Fuzzy Kind, supportive words as always -- means a lot to me
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Old Sep 03, 2017, 07:31 PM
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I agree with Fuzzy. Excellent advice.
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