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Default Oct 19, 2007 at 09:05 AM
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I am a ballroom dancer and a drummer and I've just walked away , it's not like me . Can you please share with me ? I feel so lost and hurt

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Default Oct 19, 2007 at 09:09 AM
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Doesn't have to be permanent. Maybe you just need a profound rest. I was having a medical problem this summer and walked away from my grad school one morning; deleted everythign on my computer and withdrew from my classes. Rest! It/something will come back and you'll be revitalized.

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Default Oct 19, 2007 at 09:47 AM
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Thank You Perna , it's been a year now and I don't feel anything yet - I've just lost interest in everything - Hopefully you are right , I'm ready for me to come back around - I've turned the music off   - Why  ?

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Default Oct 19, 2007 at 10:05 AM
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My favorite story is my changing majors in college in 1971 and graduating with a different degree in 1972 than I had decided I wanted in 1966. In 2001 I was thinking about my life and pretending I was 85 and looking back on my life (from 2035 :-) and asked myself what I would "regret". I wondered what happened to my first love, the subject I turned away from in 1971! I just got my second BA this May in that subject :-) 35+ years later.

Look at some other things, try out whole bunches of options; writing, art, crafts, computers, "thinking", etc. I use to read the yellow pages :-) and leaf through imagining what life would be like if I were a ______________ and looking for occupations/ideas I'd never heard of/had before. Think of things you don't like and figure out why or try them anyway to see if they're "empty" prejudices. There are lots of things I "decide" I don't like but I have never really looked at, studied, done, eaten, etc. them so how can I know???? Eat something you think you don't like and know for sure why you don't like it :-) Lots of stuff is left over from when we're kids or from what our friends or family did/didn't like. My absolute favorite "game" is going into a grocery store and looking for/buying ONE thing just for me, the one thing in the grocery store I want at that moment. I found some really good, different candy one day that way, stashed in the corner of the candy aisle where they were hard to spot because they weren't a big, known brand of anything usual.

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Default Oct 19, 2007 at 12:08 PM
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Hi DrummerGirl,

I've had a similar experience too. One of the signs of significant depression is not being interested or enjoying things you once did.

Try not to be too hard on yourself...

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Default Oct 21, 2007 at 05:13 AM
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You gave me a lot to think about here - I find myself not being proud of the little things , or forgetting them -- I have Answered over 15000 questions on Question and Answer Sites and should be giving myself a pat on the back - I have only used a computer for less than a year - So those are some things I should be proud of , just can't let myself do that for some reason -
And I'm proud of your accomplishments Perna

Thank You so much , if I could just let it sink in - Hugs sent your way - I would love for you to respond back when you can .
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that is an awesome answer perna!
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Default Oct 23, 2007 at 04:53 AM
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Thank You bandjelly for your response , it does feel better knowing were not alone and that this can happen to people .
Thank you again - DrummerGirl I've turned the music off   - Why  ?

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Default Oct 23, 2007 at 04:56 AM
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I've turned the music off   - Why  ? -- It sure was nowheretorun

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