[KEB1990]

My mom's been gone for 3 years now. My parents were married 35 years . A few days ago my dad out of the blue said he was going to take this woman who I never met on a date. I'm trying to be supportive but it's making me feel like he's replacing my mom . It's triggered both my depression and anxiety.

[Nike007]

I'm sorry. It is possible that he is just trying to move on. I know that they were together for many years, and people grieve. But after some time, they feel that they need to be with someone again.

Your dad isn't going to find someone to replace your mom. I can kinda relate, as my parents divorced after 13 years together, but I do know that my dad's mom passed away too, and his dad is now with someone again. He doesn't see his dad's new mom as his mom in any way. That isn't the person who raised him. I think he sees it as someone to help his dad emotionally for love and support. Not as someone to replace your mom.

Take care.

[Teddy Bear]

He doesn't want to be lonely. Try to be happy for him

[Deejay14]

Originally Posted by KEB1990

My mom's been gone for 3 years now. My parents were married 35 years . A few days ago my dad out of the blue said he was going to take this woman who I never met on a date. I'm trying to be supportive but it's making me feel like he's replacing my mom . It's triggered both my depression and anxiety.

My mom and Dad were married 48 years. She died at 67. Years later Dad dated one woman. They were both in their late 70's. She was a wonderful woman but both were pretty clear that neither was a replacements for the deceased spouse. My husband and I even double dated with them. At first it was weird be a use I had only seen Dad with Mom, but it kept him going.it was great to see him happy. Please consider my as signature at the bottom.

[KEB1990]

thanks eveyone. After some time I've come to terms that he's just loney.

Originally Posted by KEB1990

thanks eveyone. After some time I've come to terms that he's just loney.

Sorry you feel that way. I don't think wanting a date or relationship is Looney. I wouldn't want my husband to be alone forever if I died.

Both of my parents have long passed. Change is hard I know, but isn't the most important thing your dads happiness?

[shamon86]

Originally Posted by KEB1990

My mom's been gone for 3 years now. My parents were married 35 years . A few days ago my dad out of the blue said he was going to take this woman who I never met on a date. I'm trying to be supportive but it's making me feel like he's replacing my mom . It's triggered both my depression and anxiety.

My mom passed in 2007 when I was 21. Still lived with my dad and brothers for about 5 years after that, when my dad started dating a woman we knew when we were younger, but hadn't seen in years. 2 weeks after we found out he was dating, he announced they were engaged and were to be married a couple months after. I was completely heartbroken, I didn't know how I should feel about the fact that my parents were married for 25 years and it just kind of felt like he was throwing all that away plus the fact that he kind of turned our living situation upside down (long story). The whole entire time I was trying to deal with this on top of my mounting depression and anxiety, all of my aunts, uncles and cousins told me that I should be happy for him, because his happiness was all that mattered. I never wanted him not to be happy, I just wanted time to get used to the idea (although now that I think about it, I'm not sure how long it would have taken me to do that). I don't mean to scare you, I don't think anyone, including your father knows how this will turn out.

I wish I had some words of wisdom to help you get through this but the best thing I can tell you is you're allowed to feel how you feel, regardless of what those feelings are. And I'm sure you want your father to be happy, but that does not negate your emotions about the whole situation.