[mountainstream]

People don’t listen to me.

I’m worthless. I have nothing to give.
I’ve been told this by family and even some friends.
People talk about having “real” friends. I’m only useful to be a doormat and to be thrown away.

Narcissists are successful. They trick stupid people like me. I fell for it every time.
I’m so weak that their cruel words hurt me.
Even online I don’t belong.

I'm listening. Youre not worthless. Everyone has something to give. You are not stupid.

I am sorry that you feel this way. Other people treating us badly is a reflection of them and not us. If you need a friend, add me as one on here. Hugs.

[shannonwalter201]

I feel the same way. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist on and off for the past years. I have given him everything. What u have to say is important I am listening and u are not worthless. You are here for a reason.

[MeXoXO]

Everyone fits somewhere

And you have and th rest users , everyone is kind here

I hope you get better

[lotusblossom19]

I'm sorry you're experiencing these feelings. Worthless is something you definitely are not - I can tell you that for sure. So not stupid, so not weak. One thing I've learned is that narcissists often pick for their targets those with qualities they find admirable and secretly envy those they try to tear down. Been targeted by quite a few in my life.

I've thought a lot about things and realized I truly was not deserving of the treatment I received. It had a heck of a lot more to do with their insecurities than my shortcomings. It is quite likely those people have tried to crush your self-esteem because theirs is low and they see special qualities in you they wish to possess. Look into projection. It is often used to make you think things are wrong with you which are actually the issues of the person pointing the finger at you.

Anyways, please take comfort in knowing you are welcome here. No test to pass. Nothing to prove. You belong.

[TheDunce]

I know what you and others are going through with narcissists. Narcissism is a common trait of sociopaths. They go through life manipulating people to get their way and so they don't have to work their way through life. You are not stupid -- a narcissist will try to convince us that they're super-intelligent and we should, therefore, just blindly kowtow to their every whim. They look for compassionate, generous people to target. I'd never thought of them admiring and envying our qualities like lotusblossom said. That's an interesting observation.

One of the reasons I'm here (depression) is because of an experience with an old friend who wheedled her way back into my life a few years ago. She came to stay with me after her divorce, until she could find employment and afford a place of her own. She never really planned to do that. She was sponging off of me, claiming my belongings for herself (even my cane), and expected me to support her financially. She bragged repeatedly that she was the valedictorian in her High School class, and then tried to tell me what to do in my own home. There were things, though, that she tried to sound knowledgeable about but she was incorrect.

I'm so glad I didn't sign her onto my lease, but she could've gotten me evicted since she was refusing to leave. I had the locks on my doors changed the day she left because I'd loaned her my spare key and worried she had made a duplicate. I was afraid that once she found an apartment she would send a moving van to my place and clear out my furniture. I think she did try returning a couple of times, too.

When I think about it all (which I do frequently), it causes me tremendous anxiety and anger to think of where things could've led had I allowed her to sign onto my lease. I was so kind and generous to her even when my health was failing and I lost my job. She would cry to me over the telephone how others had treated her so cruelly, and without cause. So, I now know that she's had many other victims and I stress to think of whom she may be victimizing now. I've broken all contact with her, but part of my anxiety is fearing she may try to contact me again after she's run out of victims, with another sob story.

Because of what I went through with her and a few other narcissists, I understand to a degree what you're going through, mountainstream. Our experiences are all unique, but please remember that you are not stupid or weak. You are intelligent, kind and caring. Those family and friends who told you bad things are only a small part of this planet. There are a lot more people out there who are very much like you and would be delighted to have you as a friend.