[Fuzzybear]

“My parents threatened to throw me out”

This seems to be somewhat common amongst “strict” parents (an old friend of mine was threatened with this too when he was 18)

But I think it takes a “special” kind of cruel and callous for a parent to actually throw their offspring out
(While blaming them and showing their lack of appreciation in so many ways..)

I changed this post. I started by saying “I hardly ever buy clothes” as part of me feels I’m not “worth” it ..

[Rohag]

I wonder how often parent-child disaffection/disconnection underlies cases of depression.

Not purchasing yourself something because one "isn't worth it". That resonates.

[MickeyCheeky]

Our parents really affect our life.. both in the good and the bad.

My mom tossed me out when I was 17. I managed to finish high school while working a full time job and sleeping at a friend's house, eventually getting an apartment. Both of my parents abandoned me and then died. Here I am. Tough as nails and yet also soft.

Sometimes parents suck. They either become your excuse or your motivation.

[RubyRae]

I have thrown my own (adult)children out before.I know I have been judged harshly by other people for it.

I had my reasons for my decision.It's not always because the parent(s)is or are cruel and callous.Sometimes it is necessary.

And it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I have thrown my own (adult)children out before.I know I have been judged harshly by other people for it.

I had my reasons for my decision.It's not always because the parent(s)is or are cruel and callous.Sometimes it is necessary.

And it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.

It isn’t always because the parents are cruel.

In my case, I would say it definitely was for that reason. And I “received” all the blame.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

It isn’t always because the parents are cruel.

In my case, I would say it definitely was for that reason. And I “received” all the blame.

#me too

It was the same for me when I was thrown out while I was still in high school.

[Smileonmyface]

My parents gave me an ultimatum and I ended up being kicked out. The relationship I've had with them even since is a lot more strained than it ever was before.

At this point I cannot ever imagine a time when I would throw any of my three kids out, but they are very young. I dread the time when they leave because I know I won't want them to go.

But given certain circumstances is it possible? Maybe. They are too young for me to know or say. I still don't think I could actually throw them out, no matter what the situation.

[Candy1955]

If you have a child who is addicted to and cooks meth, has a record already, steals you blind, sells his grandmother's jewelry, and on and on, to save yourself sometimes you have to separate. Sometimes that is the last straw to save the child, too. It can be a very unselfish thing to do.
And sometimes not...I have experienced both.

[Fuzzybear]

Maybe I forgot to say... I didn’t do any of those “bad things”. The Parental Units and the FOO - NPD.

It isn’t about “blaming” the Parental Units either. I just know I wouldn’t treat anyone like that

[Fuzzybear]

I’m going to purchase this book

LOST CONNECTIONS

Uncovering the real causes of depression

By Johann Hari

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

I wonder how often parent-child disaffection/disconnection underlies cases of depression.

Not purchasing yourself something because one "isn't worth it". That resonates.

(((((((((( Rohag ))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Our parents really affect our life.. both in the good and the bad.

Thanks Mickey, this is true. It’s not possible to “forget” the people who ... at least I can’t.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by Candy1955

If you have a child who is addicted to and cooks meth, has a record already, steals you blind, sells his grandmother's jewelry, and on and on, to save yourself sometimes you have to separate. Sometimes that is the last straw to save the child, too. It can be a very unselfish thing to do.
And sometimes not...I have experienced both.

Yep.Especially when you have done all you can to help yout child and have gone bankrupt putting them in every type of treatment avalable.There comes a time when you have to put your own sanity and safery first and do the hatd thing of making them leave.

[Fuzzybear]

My Parental Units didn’t “help” me.......

Never mind, who the **** cares..

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I’m going to purchase this book

LOST CONNECTIONS

Uncovering the real causes of depression

By Johann Hari