[raf_edd]

Hey guys, I'm going to share some personal situation that traumatized me to the point I just can't approach a woman. Maybe I'm being harsh, **** my few friends say it happens to every man, but my few attempts went to diz aster and a shy guy like me with self steem problems it hurts. This is not a knock on any girl, or guy (female reader), but in the social structure of meeting people they can be some of the worst ****s,pricks(female readers). This is not a theory or anything. But the few tries I had went terrible. One girl in a bar didn't even let me say the first words, just looked at me a did the "get out of here" hand movement. Other just talked to me becouse she needed a transport card to get the bus, few days later pretended I didn't exist. The others one the basic "**** off" look on their faces. And you ask me why I don't approach strangers? **** off, rejection hurts even if it was only a few times. Now if I went to online, I won't be a hypocrite. Got some feedback on tinder, with those ****ing fake boosts. But it wasn't girls I wasn't attracted to. Besides one where I ****ed up. But right now, online is my only option. And I'm not particularly a model, maybe I aim to high. But that's it guy. Criticize me or post some support I'm here.

[cryingontheinside]

It must be horrible to be rejected like that and it's not good for your self asteem . I would say if women go to a bar they should understand that they may be approached by guys there and they should be able to handle it respectfully.
In real life I never got rejected because I never had the courage to make a first move but online I've been rejected plenty .
I just want to explain something from my point of view though . ( Me being a woman ) in my more attractive days when I was looking at my best I used to constantly get approached by strangers and I honestly felt harassed and embarrassed and intimidated. It would happen in the street . I was also in a relationship so no matter how amazing they might be I wouldn't be interested . I would try to be polite but they would follow me where I was going when that was not originally the direction they were heading to. They would just keep talking and walking with me even after I said I had a bf . Sometimes they would say voulger things. Another two guys tried to walk with me all the way to my dad's house to his door step and I had to tell tell them to please leave now . He had security cameras and I would of had to explain why two strange men walked me to his door .
So there was this one time I was taking my sister out for her birthday . I got dressed up and walked to her place. On the way there a teenage boy approached me and tried to chat me up . I knew he was going to end up following me all the way to my sister's place if I spoke to him so I decided to ignore him . I wasn't doing it to be nasty it was because I wanted to be left alone and didn't want to feel uncomfortable. He got very angry. He screamed at me all the way down the road and then started shouting out to people passing by that I probably have aids. The only reason why I'm telling you this is that women might react a certain way because they feel intimidated in general being approached by strangers . You might of been the 10th person to approach them that night and maybe they just wanted to be left alone . I'm not blaming you or saying you did something wrong because you didn't . I just don't want you to take it personal or think it was about you when really it was about them . Like that guy I ignored , there was nothing in particular about him , I had no negative thoughts about him , I had just been in similar situations and they had always followed me and I just didn't want to be bothered . He took it very badly . Maybe I could of dealt with it better but I don't really know how .