[Sunny2150]

Hi... I don’t know if I should post this here or in habits but...

Anyone have any advice on getting out of bed? I’ve sunk really far this time; it’s been over a month now. I’m literally either at work or in bed. No housework has been done for over a month. All dishes are dirty, counter and table are stacked with trash and recycling, the litter box is so dirty that my cats are probably peeing somewhere else. I’ve been eating out for every meal because cooking is impossible. Rewearing dirty clothes. I called out of work today to get stuff done but still stayed in bed... I live by myself. Need help!

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps try to do only a small task each day? Start very small (even simply rearranging your bed) and perhaps try to make a plan (some sort of journal) about the following days and see if you can stick to it.

[Fuzzybear]

what concerns me the most after reading that post is the fact that your cat has a dirty litterbox.

is their someone who can come in and help you look after the cat? ( a naybor, a friend, etc). the cat needs a lot of care, and a lot of things done for him- is the cat being fed on a daily bases?, does the cat have water?. is the cat free to go out when it likes?

I don't mean to preach about treatment of animals (that's not my intention), you're obviously struggling a lot yourself, and I'm just worried by the fact that you have a cat, and it's maybe not getting the attention it needs

cat aside, I do agree with making small goals- they can be really little.. today, I'm going to sit in my living room with the window open for 10 minits (something as simple as that), then move on to bigger stuff- maybe at first, it can be one day a week, you set aside for yourself.. just one day when you're like right okay, I'm going to shower, I'm going to clean my room, I'm going to try and cook something for dinner... just one day

good luck

[Fuzzybear]

[downandlonely]

I agree with trying to do a little bit each day. Also, are you on meds for depression? They can help.

[Fuzzybear]

[SlumberKitty]

Baby Steps...clean cat box one day. Next day wash three dishes. Next day do one load of laundry. Baby Steps. (((hugs)))

[Cocosurviving]

Do you have a pdoc and a therapist? I don’t know how you feel about meds. I’ll be honest my oldest daughter’s job was not that understanding about her depression. Oh and she worked for a health insurance company too.

[mwaxy]

I would suggest linking in to a service that could get you started with cleaning/de-cluttering alongside you, and then assisting with the other supports you need to put in place to assist you to start taking care of you and your needs again.

One time I didn't shower for a month due to fear and anxiety and DV. So I kinda getcha

[ptangptang]

You have to make a start on things otherwise it will get to the point that it seems insurmountable and you'll end up like those on 'Hoarding buried alive' who have just given up. Do the most important first. You must be able to wash, use the toilet, cook, and have clean clothes. I sympathise. I'm a terrible procrastinator. My place is a functioning tip, but it reflects my life. All over the place.

Things go wrong and they get added to the list. Lataest thing is the oven grill has stopped working. I can get round it but eventually so many things don't work that people just give up. Like those on 'Hoarded buried alive. So please . Make a start.