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I did not think I was depressed. But I have really struggled a lot in the area of social anhedonia. I find that not wanting to do social stuff makes me act on that feeling. So I don't do most social things, especially lately. I find that...even with a particular social group I love, I feel good, better, there. But I just can't get myself to do more, unless I really push myself. And I am super resistant. I do not know why. Though in my past, long ago, I felt forced by my parents to do social things that I did not want to do and that were not a good fit for me.
I feel very frustrated. I am envious of people who are happy and enjoying life (which leads me to think I AM depressed), and I find myself thinking about the s word, though it is not a serious consideration, just a fleeting thought, it is probably an indicator that I'm sick / depressed again, and should talk to my doctor and therapist. |
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I am not a psychiastrist but someone who went and is going through a much lighter depressive syndrome. What you described reminded me of myself. Depression isnt linear or equal to everybody.
Just try to find a good doctor and get a proper diagnosis and treatment. |
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Yes. Apathy and social disinterest are signs of depression.
Have you had a look at the DSM criteria for diagnosing depression? |
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Thank you for the hugs mountainstream and Fuzzybear. Hugs back.
Hi Bill. No, I have not looked at the DSM V. I think deep down I knew it was a depression symptom. I don't know why I posed it as a question. I did want to know what people thought. I know it's a symptom of many things, and perhaps a better question would be "IS this depression or something else?" However, some days have passed and it seems I have been depressed. Low energy, holing up in my home, not wanting to do things, and negative thoughts. Update: I think I need to find acceptance of this symptom. Its something I've experienced for a long time. Anxiety over social things doesn't help either. It's a ball of anxiety and depression all telling me to stay home. I find that caffeine helps me and I've been drinking coffee lol. I also find that talking to others does help, as well as getting myself to exercise. It's starting to be nicer outside, and I want to be in nature badly. I talked to my therapist today. We talked about exercise (finding something I enjoy doing in that area) and volunteering, and just keeping on keeping on. Therapists do not have magic wands. Lol. I sometimes tell people, out of reassurance, that I'll "Talk to my therapist about this." I do not think my therapist has a magic wand, at least. Sometimes we are what were are, life is what it is, and that's ok. I tend to think of the word patience in my self work. Patience is important, as well as...patting myself on the back more. We actually spent a lot of the session talking about my interest in working with kids. It felt like a lighter topic. However, we did problem solve a little too |
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What might you consider doing with kids?
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first I want to say that I've read several of your recent posts to others on PC. I find you to be a very intelligent and empathetic person. I believe you have likely already helped several folks here with your warmth and kindness. You are a ray of sunshine on PC. You have much to be proud of Ptak! I think children would be lucky to have someone like you working with them. Second, I am sorry that you've not been feeling great. Whether you feel it is depression or something else. You are right that therapists don't have magic wands and patience can be very important. However, this post I've quoted here sounds to me like you are almost resigning yourself to some level of unhappiness. Am I way off there? I apologize in advance if that offends you. Zero judgment here. You have my support. Let me know what you think about my question. I have some more ideas for you but only if you feel like hearing them. Unsolicited advice never helped anyone! I wish you peace and a bright future. You deserve it Ptak! |
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SilverTrees, that is such a nice compliment. Thank you! I would be interested to hear your ideas, yes. I don't think I'm resigned, just reframing things and finding acceptance while I also try to help myself. No offense taken. thank you for your support!
Bill, no idea. Lol. Possibly doing something low key at first, like trying out volunteering w kids in my church. I'm also nervous. I can let you all know if I do it. I'm also applying to be a volunteer tree steward. |
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My depression has made me numb at times and made me avoid social situations. It sounds like you are depressed but should see a doctor for diagnosis and medication, and possibly a therapist. Sometimes I feel like my medication numbs my feelings too but it's somehow different than the numbing from depression. Hope you feel better soon!
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Thanks Amy3boys. It's not a steady depression. I feel better sometimes. I have a therapist and psychiatrist. I see my psychiatrist today. Thanks for your feedback.
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I suspect you got it right when you suggested it was social anxiety and depression all intertwined. If you have both (like I do), they feed back and forth in that respect.
It's like they make excuses for each other. |
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They do feed each other.. And I can’t take meds. Hugs to all __________________ |
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I perceive anxiety and depression as two sides of the same coin. If a person had experienced one, they have experienced the other. Though we each seem to be more tuned in to one more that the other at different times. A therapist told me that my response to stress (anxiety) is to get depressed. I was surprised at first but found that to be true. Makes sense, right? Almost like Body and Mind get so tired of high-gear anxiety or panic that they eventually sink into depression. I don't know if that resonates with anyone else?
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This does make sense. I think I read somewhere that depression has a function of making the body rest after so much anxiety. (I read this a long time ago so I don’t know how relevant it is). Body and mind do get very tired of high anxiety (I’ve had high anxiety since cub hood ) __________________ |
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As for myself, I first became clinically depressed all those years ago when it became obvious my other issues were overwhelming and intractable. I don't get panic attacks or have the usual physical symptoms as such. I'm avoidant. When my avoidance wins and I am perpetually denied the life that others experience, I become severely depressed. When I make inroads against it and have some measure of success, my depression lifts. It isn't complicated or abstract. It's just horrifically painful and hard -- especially when the depression feeds back into it. That's why I have to take tiny steps and build myself up. |
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Ptak From what you wrote, it seems like you're trying to do your best to cope with all of this. Good for you! Be proud of yourself for that. I'm glad you have a therapist you can talk to. It can help a lot. Take all the time you need to get better. Just take it one step at the time. Take baby steps. No need to hurry. I'm sure you'll be able to get through all of this. Just try to do your best. That's all you can do after all. You have every right to be happy just like everyone else. Please don't give up. I hope things will get better soon for you. We all believe in you! I'm rooting for you, Ptak. You're a strong, wonderful person, Ptak. Try to get as much help as you can. You deserve it. You deserve to get better and to feel good. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all fo this, ptak. Please don't give up. You can do this! I believe in you. We're all rooting for you. You're a strong, wonderful person
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others experience... and with the label of avoidant which may well be accurate. I only relate to one person irl, everyone else is completely indifferent to me.. at best I have no idea how to change this. People just don’t like me and I don’t “whine” irl or even talk... So it isn’t because I’m “a negative person” .. they judge me as soon as they see me usually Sorry for the rant __________________ |
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