I found this helpful list in a 'Science of Happiness' magazine. Hope it helps others too

1 Avoid negative people
2 Find your tribe
3 Respect your own needs
4 Be grateful
5 Let go of judgment
6 Make mental health a priority
7 Go on a social-media diet
8 Be present and mindful
9 Move every day
10 Adopt a pet
11 Sleep more
12 Spend time with loved ones
13 Help others
14 Broaden your horizons
15 Savor your happiness

[mountainstream]

I’m probably a negative person to be avoided.
Maybe labelling someone as a negative person is a judgment?
“Let go of judgment”.

Thank you for sharing. I’m sure this will help some people here.

Originally Posted by mountainstream

I’m probably a negative person to be avoided.
Maybe labelling someone as a negative person is a judgment?
“Let go of judgment”.

Thank you for sharing. I’m sure this will help some people here.

What makes you describe yourself as a negative person?

(Unrelated to you) I see nothing wrong with limiting time with negative people. It's important for self-preservation and peace of mind. Energy transmits regardless of whether it is positive or negative. I don't perceive that as judging. Simply stepping back from someone is not judging them or derailing their sense of peace.

Feel free to tell me more if you feel comfortable.

Peace.

[T4bbyCat]

I find it difficult to avoid myself, too!

[lowpoint]

"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk

Originally Posted by lowpoint

"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk

I didn't see anything on the list about "doomed" people. I wouldn't describe anyone as "doomed."

Originally Posted by SilverTrees

I didn't see anything on the list about "doomed" people. I wouldn't describe anyone as "doomed."

Absolutely true Silver.

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by SilverTrees

What makes you describe yourself as a negative person?

(Unrelated to you) I see nothing wrong with limiting time with negative people. It's important for self-preservation and peace of mind. Energy transmits regardless of whether it is positive or negative. I don't perceive that as judging. Simply stepping back from someone is not judging them or derailing their sense of peace.

Feel free to tell me more if you feel comfortable.

Peace.

My “best friend” told me I am a negative person and that person became an abuser. Very much a bully.

I often find “positive people” don’t want to spend time with me.
I also step back from people sometimes.

Peace.

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by lowpoint

"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk

I like the quote “our planet is the mental institution of the universe”.
Maybe I’m one of the “doomed ones”.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by lowpoint

"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk

I like the quote about our planet.. “positive” people often don’t want to hang out with me either. I also had a “friend” who said I was “a negative person” and then this “friend” (irl) became abusive. I wouldn’t call anyone the “doomed” ones

[Deilla]

It's all perception. There's plenty of wonderful people out there. And if someone says you're negative, they are probably projecting. Which means they are the negative one. Not you. Self preservation is important.

Originally Posted by Deilla

It's all perception. There's plenty of wonderful people out there. And if someone says you're negative, they are probably projecting. Which means they are the negative one. Not you. Self preservation is important.

Couldn't have said it better myself! Well done. That's the mantra of my life, "Be positive. You'll achieve unimaginable things." Unfortunately it's not that easy to be positive for some people, that's why it's said positive thinking can achieve great things. Well done.

Yea, it seems like those who tell you that you are negative or into psychoanalyzing you are the ones that don't have their lives all together. If you notice, those who are very positive are the ones that would tell you what's great about you than what's wrong with you.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by will19

Yea, it seems like those who tell you that you are negative or into psychoanalyzing you are the ones that don't have their lives all together. If you notice, those who are very positive are the ones that would tell you what's great about you than what's wrong with you.

Good post, I agree with this

[Fuzzybear]

Another one... let those who don’t appreciate us (and who are actually “negative” and “toxic”) go and .... let them go, it’s their loss

[Thirty shades]

Originally Posted by SilverTrees

I found this helpful list in a 'Science of Happiness' magazine. Hope it helps others too

1 Avoid negative people
2 Find your tribe
3 Respect your own needs
4 Be grateful
5 Let go of judgment
6 Make mental health a priority
7 Go on a social-media diet
8 Be present and mindful
9 Move every day
10 Adopt a pet
11 Sleep more
12 Spend time with loved ones
13 Help others
14 Broaden your horizons
15 Savor your happiness

Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."

Good post, I agree

[mountainstream]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."

I agree. Rejection is a trigger for many. Thank you Thirty shades for this wise post.

I avoid those who willingly trigger me.

Thank you for the list and the discussion.

thanks.

need to work on number 2 for sure

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by mountainstream

I agree. Rejection is a trigger for many. Thank you Thirty shades for this wise post.

I avoid those who willingly trigger me.

Thank you for the list and the discussion.

Hugs

[Deilla]

I have a hard time with number 9 (move everyday). I am recovering from limited mobility. I can clean my house and that's becoming more and more each day. I hope that counts. I hear so much about how exercise can release feel good hormones, thus being beneficial for mental health.

Originally Posted by Deilla

I have a hard time with number 9 (move everyday). I am recovering from limited mobility. I can clean my house and that's becoming more and more each day. I hope that counts. I hear so much about how exercise can release feel good hormones, thus being beneficial for mental health.

Yes, movement is really important for releasing dopamine which gives us a feeling of joy and well-being. Sorry that you are having some limitations but any movement counts. If you are doing chores, that's wonderful! If some day you are not able to, could you sit in a chair and do motions with your arms and legs? Just keep thinking of safe ways you can move at all.

One great study I read said that even a 15 minute walk outside (natural light, near trees or water) can help to re-balance our neurotransmitters...thereby helping with anxiety and depression. That may not be something you can do but perhaps in the future? Or maybe you can get help to go outside and do arm or leg movements in a chair out in the sun or in a park or something.

I wish you peace and healing Deilla

Originally Posted by raging vortex

thanks.

need to work on number 2 for sure

That's the one I really need to work on myself. Having a tribe feels very rewarding, or at least it did when I had one many decades ago. On the other hand there can be conflicts on that since people are not perfect.

That's one reason why I want to move from the place I live at now. I would hope to find something of a tribe when I move somewhere else. There's no chance at making any friends at the complex I live at now.

Originally Posted by will19

That's the one I really need to work on myself. Having a tribe feels very rewarding, or at least it did when I had one many decades ago. On the other hand there can be conflicts on that since people are not perfect.

That's one reason why I want to move from the place I live at now. I would hope to find something of a tribe when I move somewhere else. There's no chance at making any friends at the complex I live at now.

Best wishes to you Will19 for finding your own tribe!

I can attest to social media "diets" (#7 on the list) making for a happier life. I take breaks from social media and PC. I think part of the happiness of this is knowing when it feels right to come back, coming back with new ideas and safer ways of being, and then taking breaks again when it feels like it's time.