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#1
If there is one thing I really struggle with in others..
It’s inauthenticity In particular “Never feign affection” - from the Desiderata Thanks to @little turtle, @Rohag, @Thirty shades, Mickey Cheeky, Sò leigheas, Crypts and others here who are “leaders” in showing empathy and genuine kindness. And in not judging or shaming anyone ....... I realise I’ve left many out... that isn’t intentional . I don’t want to make too long a list my parental units were pathological liars When I give a hug to someone, online or in real life, it’s to show genuine support I’m also capable of sometimes giving support... a clicked hug or even a posted hug to someone in need isn’t too hard to do... to someone I may not “like” - but maybe I need to rethink this?? I don’t know why though.. I have enough empathy to spare for almost everyone. A therapist who said he had no “empathy” for me... well.. I didn’t pay to hear that sort of crap. If he was feeling frustrated there are kinder and less shaming ways of saying that I do not appreciate being shamed for not being perfect .... (Not suggesting anyone here does otherwise. .. as in who am I to judge whether Hugs are “sincere” or not.. I just know that mine are ..) My PUS parental units didn’t hug me.. that wouldn’t have cost them anything.. to give a bear cub a hug __________________ Last edited by Fuzzybear; May 04, 2019 at 09:54 AM.. |
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#2
I was wondering where @mote.of.soul is.. maybe I haven’t been in the same part of the forums. You’re missed
I want to thank everyone (far too many for me to list) who has been so kind and respectful to me, despite my “imperfections” .. don’t we all have those.. of course Frankly, it would be so boring if everyone was the same... and if everyone always agreed I’ve never fitted “the” mould whatever that is.. and I never will.. __________________ |
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#3
l hate liars and backstabbers more than any other human trait
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I very much dislike those traits too...
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I have learned some secrets should not be shared even with BFF's
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Thank you so much for making this thread, Fuzzybear! You're truly one of the BEST here on PC, and definitely the official PC mascot! Please be kind to yourself, my friend! Of course no one can be expected to be perfect! We can only try our best to get through life! That's all we humans can do after all and it's ALWAYS, I mean ALWAYS MORE THAN ENOUGH! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE!!!!! Stay safe and stay strong, Fuzzybear, ok? Than you so much for mentioning me as well! I hope you'll be able to treat yourself with the same kindness that you always treat EVERYONE with! Please don't listen to whoever said those nasty things about you, ok? They're simply NOT TRUE and YOU KNOW THAT! Sending many hugs to you, Fuzzybear!!!!!
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The number of times I’ve been burnt from trusting someone (a few people) with anything at all its amazing I’m the (relatively) nice bear I am I need my teeth ... if someone dislikes me because of my teeth.... however much I may or may not want to... I cannot change my species __________________ |
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I don’t like making a long list of people I appreciate... as I’ll inevitably leave some out.... and intentionally leaving people out has never been my style...
And at the risk of embarrassing him (I’m sorry if I do) @CepheidVariable is another of the kindest, most trustworthy people who posts here __________________ |
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__________________ Last edited by Fuzzybear; May 04, 2019 at 03:14 PM.. |
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My “circle” is always open to all who are respectful and non judgmental ...
(I know everyone makes judgments .... I mean harsh cruel judgments I am not a fan of.... __________________ |
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I wonder what percent of chronic depression-anxiety sufferers had those "less perfect" parental units? ((((((( Fuzzybear ))))))) __________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it. |
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Good question as always ((((((((((( Rohag )))))))))))
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Being your authentic self......
Sometimes I am true Other times, I try to hide my pain. (IRL) I am glad here in our safe space at PC, I can be true. Hugs cost nothing but can mean so much to many.... Kindness, patience and understanding are natural when you connect with people who are naturally authentic. I have seen T's who have very little empathy, They blame when you need to return Or they fail to offer the help needed... Thank you Fuzzy and all those here who show empathy. Much love to you all |
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Thank you Thirty shades and all here who show empathy Much love to all __________________ |
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I have had counselors say many a hurtful thing to me .. it's why I don't trust them. I almost think they do it on purpose to be sure we don't form an attachment to them. But to me - it causes more harm than good. It's why I went to dealing with things on my own. That's supposed to be seen as a good thing - but when you feel pushed into it there is nothing healthy about it. I completely understand your pain. If ever you want to talk, send me a PM. ❤ Love you my friend. __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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Thank you my friend ((((((((( Crypts ))))))))))
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You're so welcome my friend *hugs* ❤
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Hugs To You Too, Dear Fuzzybear! ...
You are such a wonderful being! Finding our authentic selves is hard work! Especially learning to love and accept those authentic parts of ourselves that aren't really our favorites! But, they too serve a purpose, and I think it may have something to do with protecting those parts of us that are most vulnerable. , Pfrog |
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