[Deilla]

I have three sisters that live nearby. They never come to visit. The three of them do things together but don't include me. I know I'm overweight and have a hard time with mobility but it seems like they could do something to accommodate me.

They don't visit me cause I have nothing to offer them. I don't improve their lives in anyway. I have gone to visit them a couple of times, but it is very hard for me to leave my house. I'm trying though. This week I'm going out to eat with my step mom. My step mom is great. She's always checking in on me. My sisters don't care. I have gone months without hearing from them. I only quit saying anything because I was always initiating. We only text. They hate to talk on the phone. Sometimes I would like to talk. They won't answer the phone or call back.

I guess I'm just complaining. I'm sorry but it hurts and I don't understand why it has to be this way. People tell me I need to find a new family. But I'm always at home. I have nowhere to go. I have no way to meet people.

[sarahsweets]

Its a real shame that things are this way. I think its important not to internalize their behavior and feelings and make them your own. It is entirely their issue. You try and they choose not to. Do not let it be a reflection on you.

[MickeyCheeky]

Yes, I echo EVERYTHING sarahsweets is saying! It IS NOT YOUR FAULT, @Deilla! It's REALLY GOOD that your Stepmom is there. At least you're not entirely alone. I'm not sure if that's an option, but perhaps there are some Chats you can join? It is not the same thing a shaving friends IRL but it may alleviate the pain a bit. If you feel confident you may even want to arrange some appointments IRL with them? Either way, that's just a suggestion! In any case, we'll be here for you when you need it. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you want someone to talk to! I'll be available and try to get back at you as soon as I possibly can! Please do keep fighting! I know you can do it! Sending many safe, warm hugs BOTH you, Deilla, and ALL of your Loved Ones, INCLUDING your Stepmom of course!

[Deilla]

Thank you! I appreciate the support.

[Sunflower123]

Deilla - I have a sister like that and it’s very painful. It’s like I have nothing to offer her so she can’t be bothered. I’ve learned the hard way not to include her in my support system.

Have you tried to talk to any one or all three of your sisters about how you feel?

I don’t have any words of advice as I’m in the same boat but I wanted to show my support and let you know you are not alone. Sending big hugs.

I'm sorry for your situation. I know what it feels like to be "the black sheep". My whole family could have been diagnosed with mental issues. I was early on, with depression. I was never good enough compared to my sister or brother.

This is not about me, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in those feelings. I try to repair my family relationships. I can't anymore.

It's a terrible feeling, like no one cares. I'm glad you have some support. And, you are doing your best to take care of yourself, I see it often in your posts. Try to keep being kind to yourself, this world is full of selfish people that can't see the faults in themselves. hugs Deilla

[Deilla]

I tried talking to one of my sisters. She claimed I was jumping to conclusions and she tried to explain her side of the story. She got very upset at me. I kept saying I was sorry. It ended with another apology and I sent her a hug gif. That was a day ago. I haven't heard back. Oh well. I tried. Maybe I jump to conclusions about their motives but fact remains, they don't visit or say hello. It is what it is. I have to let it go. I have an online therapist for support, my step mom and an online friend. I have this place, my friends here and my mom from time to time. So I just need to focus on the support I do have. Thanks again for all the responses!