[Fuzzybear]

To those who know me here... and a few do, beyond the posts in the public forum.
Or to anyone (friend) who has been here a while...

Possible trigger:

Do you think I am “paranoid” and “childish”? Or “just a negative person”

A medic (irl) judged me in the harshest, ugliest terms, based on one conversation when he failed to listen... as some already know

Is it helpful or even accurate to judge anyone in those terms?

Do you judge someone based on one or two bad days? Especially when there are things going on in that persons life and relationships you have no idea about...

I have to admit I once (privately) judged someone as “paranoid” - in fact they were.

This was long long ago. They “over reacted” to a very mild expression of my frustration (with them, Their passive aggressive behaviour etc.....) And, more importantly, they were not open to forgiveness and mature discussion.

Especially in “these times” I find it sad when people continue to judge, label and other... but I suppose it’s the darker side of human nature that exists in all of us somewhere.

(not about anyone on pc, this is a general observation I have noticed over years kicking around on this planet.

I request no comments about the “situation” in the world in this thread.

Respect to all here


Thanks, appreciation and love to little turtle and all who believe in the Truth that Love is the answer

[divine1966]

I don’t think it’s fair to make such judgements based on just few bad days. It’s also not right to diagnose someone as paranoid without proper assessments. Sure some people are negative people but one should really observe them for a long time to even suggest that.

In addition it’s inappropriate for a medical professional to refer to people in such terms. There is a big difference between casual and private chit chat about someone in a privacy of your home and entirely different story to say it to a patient

What’s wrong with this person

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I don’t think it’s fair to make such judgements based on just few bad days. It’s also not right to diagnose someone as paranoid without proper assessments. Sure some people are negative people but one should really observe them for a long time to even suggest that.

In addition it’s inappropriate for a medical professional to refer to people in such terms. There is a big difference between casual and private chit chat about someone in a privacy of your home and entirely different story to say it to a patient

What’s wrong with this person

I agree. In some forests irl words like paranoid are thrown around far too lightly... and they are probably used more as an insult than a genuine diagnosis.

I spoke to a more competent doctor who said “we don’t write mean things about our patients” ..... They write very little about me since I very rarely speak to them.... having been burnt so many times. And I read what one GP said about me. It was all back to front, condescending at best and just flat out wrong. Based on one conversation.

He did later admit that I am “far from inarticulate” .... lol. But since I only had five minutes to spit out my symptoms which were complicated it was not exactly easy . A bit of kindness and compassion from the doctor would help

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

words like paranoid are thrown around far too lightly... and they are probably used more as an insult than a genuine diagnosis.

I agree.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

since I only had five minutes to spit out my symptoms which were complicated

This is, I believe, a root problem. In my experience, most primary medical practices are not set up to deal with complex issues. Even when they might recognise they have a patient with complexities, they are gatekeepers to the specialists and subject to pressures to keep those gates narrow.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

I agree.

This is, I believe, a root problem. In my experience, most primary medical practices are not set up to deal with complex issues. Even when they might recognise they have a patient with complexities, they are gatekeepers to the specialists and subject to pressures to keep those gates narrow.

Grrrr yes

They also seem pressurised to use words of one syllable only in this forest irl

[Thirty shades]

I don't think it is fair to label a person at all.

No person is negative. We are all neutral. If we are talking negatively, that is just one state we find ourselves in while in pain. We don't look for a negative life. The negative life is just somewhere we find ourselves.

When our snakes become overactive, it is possible our worries are exaggerated. We are intelligent and when we have honesty we have no need to be paranoid. It is the many lies we have been subjected to that leave us uncertain and wondering....

I once had a moment of enlightenment in a therapy session. The T shot it down... "No don't do that" was the response. How dare I voice my thoughts...

That comment made me fearful to try my personal revelation. (I am not suggesting I have a cure, many of us have worked out that a cure is unlikely)

Yesterday, I tried it, I got brave. It was helping yesterday.

I am sending hugs and respect to you dear Fuzzybear and all those who have experienced unhelpful therapy.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

I don't think it is fair to label a person at all.

No person is negative. We are all neutral. If we are talking negatively, that is just one state we find ourselves in while in pain. We don't look for a negative life. The negative life is just somewhere we find ourselves.

When our snakes become overactive, it is possible our worries are exaggerated. We are intelligent and when we have honesty we have no need to be paranoid. It is the many lies we have been subjected to that leave us uncertain and wondering....

I once had a moment of enlightenment in a therapy session. The T shot it down... "No don't do that" was the response. How dare I voice my thoughts...

That comment made me fearful to try my personal revelation. (I am not suggesting I have a cure, many of us have worked out that a cure is unlikely)

Yesterday, I tried it, I got brave. It was helping yesterday.

I am sending hugs and respect to you dear Fuzzybear and all those who have experienced unhelpful therapy.

Good post dear Thirty shades.

I’m sorry a T in this forest irl shot your moment of enlightenment down A T in this forest irl did the same to me . Grrrrrr.

That’s great that your personal revelation was helping yesterday

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

I once had a moment of enlightenment in a therapy session. The T shot it down...
Yesterday, I tried it, I got brave. It was helping yesterday.

Brava for ignoring your T!

One of the problems with labels is that, in accepting them, we may be accepting an invisible fence limiting what we might try to make our lives more tolerable.

Enough barriers exist in the world. We don't need more.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Brava for ignoring your T!

One of the problems with labels is that, in accepting them, we may be accepting an invisible fence limiting what we might try to make our lives more tolerable.

Enough barriers exist in the world. We don't need more.

[Fuzzybear]

Enough barriers exist in the world. We do not need more.

Hugs and respect to all