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Old Aug 28, 2021, 05:59 PM
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Its a long story, never adapted perfectly socially.

I developed a not very normal personality. Im 29 old.

At my 20s, when grew up, I just didnt like the kind of people I was meeting.

The things people do and like, I didnt like them. I was very quiet and calm, people could think I was shy, but no, I was ok, but too calm and quiet for them. I didnt understood people, why they acted they way they did.

My hobby was to read psychology books, real books, and people was interested in drink and have fun, I wanted to have intelectual conversations.

Anyway. Even if people was good and friendly with me, I couldnt adapt, or even declined them because they were not interesting people to talk to.

Im more open now, I think I could be more friendly at the time. But I was really obsesed with my ideas. My mind was a mess. I just couldnt understand how to live life, or enjoy it, etc.

So, now loneliness is really hard for me. Dont have any friends, my life went down the road.

Im optimistic, its not that I live in a whole thinking there is no way out, but in the meantime, loneliness destroys me.

Dont have anyone to say Hi, talk about a movie, its torture !

Anyone relates ? I joined here looking to find people I could talk a bit.
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Old Aug 31, 2021, 12:20 PM
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Dear ManDss,

I can definitely relate. With the pandemic, I am lonelier than usual. Loneliness can be really hard. Sorry my English is not good.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Old Aug 31, 2021, 03:00 PM
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Loneliness can be a big factor, I'm sure. But when I fall into the pit, I usually don't know exactly why I'm depressed. I just feel dead inside.
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Old Aug 31, 2021, 09:22 PM
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So Sorry things are being hard for you! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i agree with the wise and wonderful Yaowen and Mr Muckle in that i think i can relate a bit as i have also had many problems socializing and that loneliness can be hard. i am not sure if it was my lack of social skills or simply not finding the right people. Please don't be hard on yourself or others. Hopefully you will be able to meet some people you get along with also. Your hobbies seems a bit niche so that may be the cause perhaps. Maybe some clubs or activities near you whom cover your own interests. Perhaps starting from internet friends even. i am not sure. Maybe working with a therapist may be beneficial too to improve your social skills also. Do try to work on yourself if possible and Hopefully you will meet the right people. In the meantime you can always try to meet some online people i guess. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @ManDss, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Old Sep 13, 2021, 10:49 PM
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Old Sep 20, 2021, 09:40 PM
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Its a long story, never adapted perfectly socially.

I developed a not very normal personality. Im 29 old.

At my 20s, when grew up, I just didnt like the kind of people I was meeting.

The things people do and like, I didnt like them. I was very quiet and calm, people could think I was shy, but no, I was ok, but too calm and quiet for them. I didnt understood people, why they acted they way they did.

My hobby was to read psychology books, real books, and people was interested in drink and have fun, I wanted to have intelectual conversations.

Anyway. Even if people was good and friendly with me, I couldnt adapt, or even declined them because they were not interesting people to talk to.

Im more open now, I think I could be more friendly at the time. But I was really obsesed with my ideas. My mind was a mess. I just couldnt understand how to live life, or enjoy it, etc.

So, now loneliness is really hard for me. Dont have any friends, my life went down the road.

Im optimistic, its not that I live in a whole thinking there is no way out, but in the meantime, loneliness destroys me.

Dont have anyone to say Hi, talk about a movie, its torture !

Anyone relates ? I joined here looking to find people I could talk a bit.
I’m lonely as well.
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Old Sep 25, 2021, 04:09 PM
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I often think with me it's why I'm lonely, not so much that I am lonely

I know I am a boring person and I don't have much to offer (and I don't have much life experience), and I know that my issues drive people away.

bottom line: who wants to be friends with someone who sits on her chair all day and eats junkfood. I don't work, I don't have a very good education, I've barely seen much outside my own town, my idea of a perfect movie is to sit down in front of peppa pig or mickey mouse and watch a marathon, I'm the deffinition of boring

if you open the dictionary and look up the word boring, their's me on the page
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Old Sep 25, 2021, 04:12 PM
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when it comes to emails, not even scammers are interested

probably because I'm about as rich as oliver twist..
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Old Sep 25, 2021, 09:55 PM
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Yes, I would say that is one of the main reasons for my depression.
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Old Sep 26, 2021, 07:45 PM
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I can identify somewhat as well, though I've had some friends in the past. Most of them disappeared eventually, so I guess I didn't have much to offer them.

At 29, you can still make friends in various ways, such as forums, games, chats, etc., based on shared interests. I've met people online and later followed up in person (at least pre-COVID). The main thing is to have something that connects you, such as those shared interests. If you're on the same wavelength, that's one way it can last.
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Old Oct 06, 2021, 01:54 PM
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OP, I can relate. My interests and number of friends are pretty limited. I have two friends, both live out of state but we talk somewhat regularly.

I have ASD and ADHD diagnosis. I tend to cycle between a handful of special interests, usually I'm just obsessed with one interest at a time. I'll be all about some special interest but suddenly just drop it and pick something else.

I've been noticing lately the huge difference between being lonely and feeling alone. I've had some of my best life experiences when I was just by myself, while some of my strongest feelings of loneliness come when I'm out and around other people.

Sometimes I choose to go grocery shopping when I'm feeling lonely. It's comforting somehow to be doing the same thing as those around you, and I enjoy a little friendly chit chat when I'm checking out.

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