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Default Feb 04, 2021 at 02:00 PM
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Any ideas to get through those days that are less than successful?

Is it best to not try?
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Any ideas to get through those days that are less than successful?

Is it best to not try?
I nap if I can for a while (often I cannot)

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Salmon and wine?

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I nap if I can for a while (often I cannot)

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Thank you dear friend.

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Big hugs, Thirty Shades, and thanks for everything you do for others

Is it best to not try? That's a good question.

Yes, on the whole I'd say it's kinder on ourselves not to try. Some part of us must be in pain, and if that part were a child, we wouldn't force it
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Today I had something planned.But the morning started with a person texting me and blaming me for something I am not responsible.I wanted to continue with my own schedule so that my day has some .meaning.But wanted to defend myself so bad that I replied back.I got dragged into the mud again.I defended myself more ,explained more to no avail.There were barrage of texts coming fast at me paragraph and paragraphs kept coming.By afternoon I realised it was a trap to re enter into my life as I have minimized contact with some people so that I can stay sane.I stopped replying to their blame.They got angry at my silence.Half of the day is already spent wasteful.So I ignored their anger and went out and did some shopping.Hmmm felt good.And I learned my lesson.Never engage with these kinds of people via texts.
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How can you not try? I have a job I have to punch in at.
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I know that Thirty shades does try. I think she is expressing her pain and exhaustion.

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I know that Thirty shades does try. I think she is expressing her pain and exhaustion.
I'm not judging her. I'm simply saying I wish I had the option to not try. I gave that up when I went back to work. I think that's why the whole time I was on disability people were saying work was good for you. I know I'm exhausted from working however it beats the alternative.
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Is it best to not try? That's a good question.

Yes, on the whole I'd say it's kinder on ourselves not to try. Some part of us must be in pain, and if that part were a child, we wouldn't force it
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Today I had something planned.But the morning started with a person texting me and blaming me for something I am not responsible.I wanted to continue with my own schedule so that my day has some .meaning.But wanted to defend myself so bad that I replied back.I got dragged into the mud again.I defended myself more ,explained more to no avail.There were barrage of texts coming fast at me paragraph and paragraphs kept coming.By afternoon I realised it was a trap to re enter into my life as I have minimized contact with some people so that I can stay sane.I stopped replying to their blame.They got angry at my silence.Half of the day is already spent wasteful.So I ignored their anger and went out and did some shopping.Hmmm felt good.And I learned my lesson.Never engage with these kinds of people via texts.
Good post. I have had experiences like this too Hugs and respect

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Any ideas to get through those days that are less than successful?
If I'm not totally overwhelmed, I attempt to maintain whatever bits of my usual routine I can -- meals, reading, cleaning, sleep, etc. Yes, there are times when I'm unable to do anything, and other times when I mindlessly go from this to that.

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How can you not try? I have a job I have to punch in at.
I have no job.

I am a low functioning individual.
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Today I had something planned.But the morning started with a person texting me and blaming me for something I am not responsible.I wanted to continue with my own schedule so that my day has some .meaning.But wanted to defend myself so bad that I replied back.I got dragged into the mud again.I defended myself more ,explained more to no avail.There were barrage of texts coming fast at me paragraph and paragraphs kept coming.By afternoon I realised it was a trap to re enter into my life as I have minimized contact with some people so that I can stay sane.I stopped replying to their blame.They got angry at my silence.Half of the day is already spent wasteful.So I ignored their anger and went out and did some shopping.Hmmm felt good.And I learned my lesson.Never engage with these kinds of people via texts.
Thank you for posting Mendingmysoul.

It sounds like you were goaded into contact and have done the right thing. I unfortunately bit when goaded recently and had to remove myself after realising my error too.

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I'm not judging her. I'm simply saying I wish I had the option to not try. I gave that up when I went back to work. I think that's why the whole time I was on disability people were saying work was good for you. I know I'm exhausted from working however it beats the alternative.
I wish I could work, I struggle with daily activities and really couldn't manage work.
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I wish I could work, I struggle with daily activities and really couldn't manage work.

Work is exhausting on top of the other situation I’m dealing with however without work , I won’t be able to change anything. I have to depend on me.
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Work is exhausting on top of the other situation I’m dealing with however without work , I won’t be able to change anything. I have to depend on me.
Good for you to keep trying. Take care of yourself as that's how I ended up unable to work. I didn't stop until my body completely failed.

I hope things go well for you and your situation is resolved favourably.
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Good for you to keep trying. Take care of yourself as that's how I ended up unable to work. I didn't stop until my body completely failed.

I hope things go well for you and your situation is resolved favourably.

I didn’t work for 10 years while raising my child on my own with ptsd. My body is fine. It’s my moods that suffer. My situation is: right now I can do nothing. I’m powerless . It won’t be resolved by itself.
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I didn’t work for 10 years while raising my child on my own with ptsd. My body is fine. It’s my moods that suffer. My situation is: right now I can do nothing. I’m powerless . It won’t be resolved by itself.
Powerlessness is something that I understand. It is awful for someone with PTSD. My thoughts are with you.

I have CPTSD, anxiety and severe depressive episodes. My body is burnt out.

I am too in a situation right now where I am powerless. I am now finding small ways to take back some power but it is hard. Sometimes there are no ways to take power back.

Raising children alone is hard with PTSD. You sound a credit to yourself and your child.
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Powerlessness is something that I understand. It is awful for someone with PTSD. My thoughts are with you.

I have CPTSD, anxiety and severe depressive episodes. My body is burnt out.

I am too in a situation right now where I am powerless. I am now finding small ways to take back some power but it is hard. Sometimes there are no ways to take power back.

Raising children alone is hard with PTSD. You sound a credit to yourself and your child.

Thanks. I have had all of those symptoms but I also have ambition and that burned through them. I don’t know what I have right now, just a general dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
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