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Can the two go together?
What I noticed is before I processed an issue about someone where I set some new boundaries (learning ....), I must have been so low. I think that because lately I intentionally try to do enjoyable things like reading fiction or watching videos. And it's been nice when not tiring me out too fast. But when this issue started, I noticed that I just couldn't stop reading the book and start doing what I had to do instead. (E.g. work or sleep) It felt like addiction???? How do you manage this, you are supposed to do some nice things for yourself to help feel better but if it gets addictive like this as a distraction and then you feel like you can't control it, what can help? |
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So Sorry you are struggling! Please do not give up! i think the two can definitely go hand in hand. i know i have been focusing too much on my distractions and need to focus on real life more for example. i think trying to keep yourself in check may be a solution. Give yourself some set Time dedicated to do certain things, like an hour or less. i know it's easier said than done but i think it may be worth trying. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Alive99, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Thank you! I've been trying to literally for years. My conclusion is that I can't do it alone and I would be deluding myself if I tried to tell myself that I can. I need external help with it, I have a plan for that but it's extremely hard until then. Even with external help really hard. I just have too many strong negative emotions that come to the surface when I try. Right now too the muscle around my stomach is sore from tensing up trying to control them. PS: I am unmedicated, medications didn't work for me |
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This might be a basic answer, and not helpful. How about instead of getting lost in the pleasures, and finding it hard to do the work you need to do, think of the taking care of yourself or your reading a book or whatever you need to do, as the reward after you've done a bit of what's needed.
It's not like you have to set a timer, do what's needed, then reward... but basically, accomplish a few things that you know have to be done today, then lay down and read a book or watch a video. |
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Thanks for the input. Don't get me wrong please, I'll try to explain below what the problem is. The issue is that the whole problem started with how on most days I didn't have energy/felt too low to do anything - other than trying to process my issues/read psychology articles to help the processing, and then doing the work at night, because I'd feel a bit better by the late evening. So I thought if I first do something that I used to enjoy, it would help with having more energy, but then I found this was causing the above problem. Some emotional regulation problem, I figure. So then I stopped doing anything enjoyable again. I haven't done any of these enjoyable things for a while now. So, same problem as before. I sometimes have good days when I can work in the afternoon now, so there is improvement, but overall I still have to get better. And for that, if I could've simply done it the way you suggest it done I would've done so, and that's how I used to do it like everyone who's functional and has a normal life does it. I do find it's an extra issue that normal life strategies do not work with severe enough depression or whatever shutdown I've got. I'm open to hearing about options that go beyond normal life strategies. |
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Yeah, sorry I didn't read it right. I don't know if what your problems all are, but depression definitely can keep you stuck down without motivation. I do think addiction and depression together is a problem, I'm addicted to an opiod, in my case I think that I'm worse for using it. I hope you get more answers from other posters.
I do hope you do something nice for yourself today. |
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Oh no worries about that. And thanks again. Hope you can get your opioid issue sorted out too. For me the addiction stuff seems more mental than anything, for some weird reason. But it's getting better slowly. |
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