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Default Jul 04, 2021 at 06:26 PM
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I decluttered my living room today. That is all. I just haven't had energy or motivation. I will try to take the trash out tomorrow. I hope everyone is well!

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Default Jul 05, 2021 at 06:45 AM
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Same here re: energy and motivation. It all suddenly vanished and all I want to do is go to bed early. The only thing I really want to do today is spend time outdoors.


1. Spend time outdoors.
2. Map out this week.
3. Finish rough draft/outline and then list which holes need plugging.
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Default Jul 05, 2021 at 06:57 AM
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I managed to take my trash out yesterday and I checked my mail. Today I am ordering groceries. I may do the following:

1. Wash dishes.
2. Deposit a refund.
3. Clean litter boxes.

It all depends on if I find the energy and motivation. I will probably wash the dishes, but I'm not sure about anything else. Happy Monday to all!

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Default Jul 06, 2021 at 05:54 AM
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I'm glad you posted about the trash and litter boxes, Deilla - my trash pick up is today and I had forgotten to put it out and I like to do the litter boxes right before!


Yesterday I went for a walk in the morning. It was perfect out. I have a pretty good outline but a lot of gaps. I am still feeling distracted/unfocused/tired so yesterday was a lot of ten minutes doing this, ten minutes doing that. I would like to go back to the GTD system I was doing before so I can get rid of some of the stress I feel about all the undone things and just enjoy the unfocused approach if that's what I can manage.

1. Walk or swim though the weather seems really weird today.
2. Finish assignments
3. Portfolio work - try to put in four hours.
4. Meeting
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Default Jul 07, 2021 at 04:57 AM
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Three out of three. My day took an unexpected turn and I did not work on my portfolio at all. Keeping it simple today.


1. Portfolio: exclusive focus this morning
2. Food pick up
3. Hike with friend this afternoon
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Default Jul 08, 2021 at 03:59 PM
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I was proud of myself yesterday. I had planned to work on one aspect of my portfolio I've been putting off. The website I needed was down and I almost quit working on it. Instead, I worked on a different part. Today has not been that productive. I feel kind of lousy but would like to get something done now that the Excedrin kicked in. How is it already almost dinner time?

1. Dinner
2. Tidying
3. Portfolio or homework
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Default Jul 09, 2021 at 06:52 AM
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Well, one out of three ain't bad... this morning I need to
1. Prepare for class

2. Dishes
3. Shower
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Default Jul 10, 2021 at 07:27 AM
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My class yesterday was great. Another six hours today so I will not plan on doing much otherwise.
1. Unload car.
2. Dishes
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Default Jul 11, 2021 at 05:25 AM
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1. Get my documents ready for Tuesday
2. Order parts
3. Dishes
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Default Jul 11, 2021 at 08:39 AM
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I've been busy cleaning my house. And I've worked on a few projects. I was exhausted yesterday afternoon from vacuuming. Today I will take the day off. I hope all of you are well!

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Default Jul 12, 2021 at 04:16 AM
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Just two priorities today:

1. Get ready for trip
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Default Jul 12, 2021 at 05:45 AM
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I opened packages, cleaned litter boxes and unloaded the dishwasher. Today I will work on a couple of projects. I will mainly relax. I hope all of you are well.

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Default Jul 13, 2021 at 06:02 AM
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Not sure if I will treat this trip as a writing retreat or vacation or something in the middle.


1. Shower
2. Load up cooler
3. Leave!
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Default Jul 13, 2021 at 09:58 AM
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I need this thread more than ever. I feel very sad and am low in energy. Hope we all can support each other here so that nobody feels excluded. If there has been some misunderstandings between some of the members in former times, I hope that past can be past. Let us follow the GOLDEN RUULE and continue to support each other as we have done before.

My plans for tomorrow: I will visit my doctor, then straight home to do as much housework as my condition allows.

May you all feel that what you are able to do is OK!
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Default Jul 13, 2021 at 10:50 AM
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I slept late and had 2 morning naps. I'm really tired today. I'm just working on self-care at the moment. I think that is all I will do today. I hope everyone is well.

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We are all here for some reason. For some it is related to some kind of childhood-trauma. For others it is being mocked at school or work. Still others have experienced some other reason (-s) .... The reasons are multiple. The symptoms may be multiple as well.

It is good that we can support each other here and be of help even if we don't have the same symptoms or have the same frames around our living conditions.

One of my symptoms, after becoming alone, has been a feeling of not being able to do something, as if I am stuck in some sort of a frozen figure at the sofa or at the chair (without freezing), just as if I fear that moving (to do something) will be harming.

That's probably why I need this thread so much!

I don't know what to call it, may be procrastination. I don't feel well with that definition, because I have done really much in my life ... I have NOT been of the lazy type. I read a bit about procrastination and I found out that it has it's reasons like everything else. I have decided to buy a book about that.

In case anybody here feel they have some kind of procrastination problems in some areas of their life, I want post the title here.

"The Psychology of Procrastination: Understand Your Habits, Find Motivation, and Get Things Done". If you want to explore it, that can be done at Amazon.

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Good morning everybody!

This morning I feel really OK! I had time to read in the book yesterday before bedtime. As told, I cannot identify with the idea of "procrastination". I have done so much in my life, raised children at the same time as I was a student. I have had a really demanding job. I have welcomed my grandchildren and kissed them goodbye when it was their time to become students. I have done the housework for hours once a week, when I worked. I exercised every morning and went for hiking every Sunday (even when I was depressed). I forced myself to be in the here and now.

It has been almost impossible to understand why I have become a "procrastinator" in my old days. I do not use a therapist now, but when I had one, the therapist told me that this "frozen posture" was because of anxiety. OK, so may be it is anxiety, but how do I treat that anxiety?How do I get rid of it?

Well, that is what I hope this book will teach me. So far it has told me about depression and the difficulty to start doing "things" because of low energy. I knew this from before. I have had real reasons to become depressed. Some "happenings" made me so. But why this "freezing posture" when it comes to doing things in the house now? Here the book comes in and talks about, of all things, HABITS. The author relates it to the brain's functions. That is understandable and gives me hope. A habit can always be broken if one finds the right tools to do so. Next chapter is about what anxiety does to the brain. I look forward to read (and do) it.

For now I have to do some cleaning before I go for the appointment with the doctor.

May you all feel that what you are able to do is OK (either little or much)!
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I went off the bus a 20 minutes walk before the doctor's office. Had a nice walk in the sun and heard birds singing. Wonderful! I read about anxiety and procrastination in the waiting room. That chapter did not give me as much as that about depression, but it goes along the same line of course. A persons brain get used to some kind of doing or not doing (several nerve pathways work together). I can understand that when the time comes and the nest is empty, there is nobody to talk to inside the home, and of course there are opportunities for growing habits that is not good for one. I can especially understand that the Lockdown made "things" worse, even if some of my family members came and stood outside from time to time. The long Lockdown time was an awful time! Glad it belongs to the past. To have to stay alone for a lot of time is not healthy, neither emotional nor physical ...

On my way home again I dropped into the grocery store. Bought a few things and a bottle of wine. (My meds tolerate alcohol in small portions). For now I am going enjoy my dinner and wine and then rest for a bit afterward. Later in the evening I am going to do housework in the living room.

Hope all the users of this thread are well!

May you all feel that what you are able to do is OK (either little or much)!
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Default Jul 14, 2021 at 09:02 AM
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Thanks for the book recommendation! I have been thinking today that no matter how much I do, I still feel like I didn't accomplish much. I am sitting in a borrowed lake house which unfortunately now has internet, feeling this intense pressure to 'do' before it starts raining. I should go swimming or go out in a boat or go for a hike etc etc.

Today my goal is to avoid the shoulds. I am not going to feel pressured to do anything at any particular time today.


1. Groceries
2. Sweep and dust
3. Ignore pressure to optimize vacation time
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Today my goal is to avoid the shoulds. I am not going to feel pressured to do anything at any particular time today.

I send my best wishes for your vacation and hope you are able to nothing, nothing, nothing ... JUST RELAX!

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