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Jul 07, 2021 at 07:54 AM
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Dear Friends,
I have as many problems as many of you, but I appreciate your advice. Of my many issues, the worse is not being able to be part of my children life. My ex does not allow me to contact them at all and I am so unhappy. And I feel so vulnerable and I am not as confident and strong as I was once. I lost everything and I wonder I am 46 do you think is too late for me. Should I give up on life. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro Last edited by FooZe; Jul 10, 2021 at 01:49 PM.. Reason: added trigger icon |
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Jul 08, 2021 at 12:07 AM
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Jul 10, 2021 at 02:29 AM
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Thank you my friend I am trying my level best to become better.
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Jul 10, 2021 at 02:30 AM
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I want to survive and live without the guilt feeling that my kids are out there without me.
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Jul 10, 2021 at 02:37 AM
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So happy for your post my friend. Lifts my spirits a bit. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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Jul 10, 2021 at 09:02 AM
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Jul 10, 2021 at 09:02 AM
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Isn’t there a court system in Japan. Most of the time you can’t just keep kids away from a parent, although some try. Have you taken her to court to establish visitation schedule?
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Jul 10, 2021 at 02:40 PM
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So Sorry for what you're going through! Please Do not give up!
  i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about getting in court if you haven't already of course. Life without Family can be tough but if it is not possible to see your children at least try to Rebuild your Life. Please do not get that discouraged. You are stronger than you yourself think i think. Stay Safe. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @captaineo, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!    
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Aug 01, 2021 at 04:22 AM
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Thank you Mickey, I am trying my best. Thank you so much for your kind words always echoes good in my spirits, Fuzzy, Bluekoi, Celistie and many of my sisters and brothers in this group. You mean a lot to me even if have not met, I feel I know you. Many blessings Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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Aug 19, 2021 at 01:12 PM
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Aug 19, 2021 at 04:43 PM
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Hugs. i am not sure how much helpful advice i can give but i think it is important to acknowledge that you have value as a person outside of your father and husband role also. You have value as a human being so Please do not let anyone tell you otherwise. i think it may be a good idea to start working on your self-esteem though i realize it can be hard i suppose. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @captaineo, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Aug 22, 2021 at 07:40 AM
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It was wrong of me to get involved knowing I have so many issues. I have to fight and try to move forward with my life even with someone I do not love, because I still love my ex wife and my kids. And this is driving me mad. Thank you so much MC, you know my issue since some years now so I appreciate so much your words they fill a void somehow and give me hope Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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Feb 06, 2022 at 08:36 AM
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Just wishing all of you wonderful people all the best for 2022. Pray to God that we all manage to better our lives.
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Feb 06, 2022 at 02:46 PM
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Hello, Captaineo. How do things look now?
__________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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May 29, 2022 at 07:55 AM
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Hi Rohan, not good. Still having a terrible time as I worry about my kids. And Japan still so close minded to foreigners even Today, I am accepting this prejudice issue is incurable Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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May 29, 2022 at 11:19 AM
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I am sorry, Captaineo. I would imagine that even the local legal academy is firmly part of the cultural landscape there.
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Jun 16, 2023 at 05:05 AM
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Rohag, it is a literal nightmare for divorced Fathers both foreigners and Japanese suffer. In my case on top of my condition Hi all happy 2023, sorry for the late message. Still depressed but fighting my depression. Battle is not over. I do miss my daughters so much, Hi dear friends I am picking up on my same post some years later, hope you are still listening, I feel terrible these days and it’s not getting easy, I take meds and keep my diary, but the dynamics of my family asking me always for money is a problem for me. And they make me feel like a wallet, I have to pay them though because they take care of my sister who’s sick as well. How to live in some kind of happiness like this, appreciate any advice or some kind words dear friends. I still can’t see my kids and is just aweful feeling losing my role as father and my kids losing their father. Plus in a land not of my own I dunno what to do love you all hope you are also fighting a good fight Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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Jun 16, 2023 at 08:26 AM
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Good to hear from you, Captaineo.
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On the whole, do the meds help significantly? Do they help at the expense of thinking and focusing clearly on challenges? __________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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Jun 18, 2023 at 06:09 AM
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Hi Rohag,
Thank you for your kind reply. Journal helps me more in organizing my thoughts, the meds are hard to stop because I will get panic and difficult to breathe. You know my friend losing my wife and kids did really finally break me completely this was in 2014, but after this I have been battling for my life I have a new couple but is a complex person too and I doubt she will stick around. Now I am 47 and I feel if I am losing or a loser can my friends give me some advice. Love you all and big hugs Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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Jun 18, 2023 at 01:56 PM
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I find myself in such a situation and at such an age that surviving has become much more important to me than winning or losing. But, may you - and all of us - exceed just surviving. __________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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