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jrae
doesn't understand this messed up world.....
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#1
i'm not sure i can keep doing this. the 'hits' / blows just keep coming!
and i really hate those people who think 'everything' is your fault! it makes things /life a million times harder.... [as in: you got the flu, "oh it's your own fault"; you broke a finger or twisted your ankle, "oh it's your fault", for not preventing it; you're battling fatigue, "oh it's your fault for not drinking enough fluids' (or eating the"right" foods); .... making these 'judgments' whether they know all the info or not, assumptions all all!] |
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I guess I could say that the hits & blows have been coming my way in the last three or four months. This year started off OK, I guess, but lately the hits been coming my way. For the last two months at my job, things changed and got bad. There was nothing to do at work mostly, and then the maintenance man left to retire, so I ended taking his place in which I didn't want. All kinds of things went wrong that I couldn't repair and people were hollering at me. And then there was a security guard who had to get in on my business on everything. We bickered a lot. It became unbearable so I ended quitting. Just yesterday an ex coworker called me, and when I told him I had quit, he told me that I shouldn't have. So that didn't help.
Just before I had quit, I planned out on how I'm going to survive without receiving unemployment. It looked like I could do it. And then a couple of major set backs happened that I had planned on. First I was ineligible to be enrolled in a low-cost insurance program which was a total surprise to me. And it came about after spending many hours on the phone for the insurance. And after that, I was expecting a payment and was told I would receive a it on the 14th of this month. It still hasn't come yet because of mistakes that were made by them to hold up the payment to my bank account. So I've had to make calls both with them and my bank. So there went the ease of retirement! And now I just let go of an only friend I have because of arguing. The arguing had been constant. Plus he disagrees with me on practically everything and has a "blame the victim" mentality. It's hard to let an only friend go. Next week I have an appointment for a minor medical procedure that I'm not looking forward to. So that's how it's been going for me. I guess you're not alone with the hits and blows. However, I had worked out the problems that I had going against me. And ended up alright. I'm just bracing for the next battle now. |
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Kelly68
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I have to give a big nod and agree with you. People like to place blame on us for things we can't control. Depression is one of those things they think we can fix like the cold or flu, it's our fault we have it. Many things contribute to depression, your situation I don't know, but mine does as well as always having been down.
I experience this judgement daily lately. All I feel I can do is forgive myself, I'm human. I can't always fix what someone else thinks is wrong with me. Sure, do I need to work on myself, yes. But life throws us stuff sometimes and we can't deal with it all. |
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One thing that annoys me the most is when someone tells me, "You're depressed because you think negatively!" As if thinking positively will cure depression. Anyway, people say it's always my fault.
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