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Red face Oct 30, 2021 at 12:04 AM
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For at least twenty years now I've known that boys are falling behind girls at every stage of their schooling and it's been on the back of my mind probably the whole time. Sometimes I get obsessed with it and I find it really depressing. Not much is being done about it and it is not being discussed in mainstream TV.

There's nobody in real life I can talk about this with as it's embarrassing to talk about. Maybe a therapist.

Sometimes I look at these articles about the gender education gap and it reads as though my gender is inferior, so it's depressing for that reason.

Sometimes I get depressed because I feel if I did talk about this people would mock me because they don't see men's problems as being significant compared to women's problems. I imagine sarcasatic replies like "oh boohooo"

Other times I get depressed and angry because I wonder if there is maybe a gender bias in the way schools operate. I'm not an education expert so idk. It's hard to think of boys perhaps being discriminated against.

Anyway, I think the first step would be if society took this seriously, and there was a name for it. We talk about the Gender Pay Gap so why not the Gender Education Gap? If they acknowledged this problem that would help a lot.

A lot of my depression is from the fact that I don't feel this issue is taken seriously at all, and that men are not particularly valued in today's society. I get that there is male privilege, but there is also male disadvantage, and it's not just in schooling.
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I feel the same about females.

I am female, and I can't count the times people have said oh.. females can't do this, females can't do that. that's a boy's job. I feel that quite a lot of times people see females as weaker. we can't hold heavy objects, we can't be heroes, we can't like sport, we can't do anything technical, and the list goes on and on.
at our school, for example, they wouldn't let females take part in sports day- us, female, running across a field?. no way. that's what the excuse was
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For at least twenty years now I've known that boys are falling behind girls at every stage of their schooling and it's been on the back of my mind probably the whole time. Sometimes I get obsessed with it and I find it really depressing. Not much is being done about it and it is not being discussed in mainstream TV.

There's nobody in real life I can talk about this with as it's embarrassing to talk about. Maybe a therapist.

Sometimes I look at these articles about the gender education gap and it reads as though my gender is inferior, so it's depressing for that reason.

Sometimes I get depressed because I feel if I did talk about this people would mock me because they don't see men's problems as being significant compared to women's problems. I imagine sarcasatic replies like "oh boohooo"

Other times I get depressed and angry because I wonder if there is maybe a gender bias in the way schools operate. I'm not an education expert so idk. It's hard to think of boys perhaps being discriminated against.

Anyway, I think the first step would be if society took this seriously, and there was a name for it. We talk about the Gender Pay Gap so why not the Gender Education Gap? If they acknowledged this problem that would help a lot.

A lot of my depression is from the fact that I don't feel this issue is taken seriously at all, and that men are not particularly valued in today's society. I get that there is male privilege, but there is also male disadvantage, and it's not just in schooling.

Can you clarify what you mean by the issue is not taken seriously? Are you speaking specifically of what you say is the lag from school?

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A lot of my depression is from the fact that I don't feel this issue is taken seriously at all, and that men are not particularly valued in today's society. I get that there is male privilege, but there is also male disadvantage, and it's not just in schooling.
That's a different sort of perspective than what I'm used to these days, given all the diversity and inclusion initiatives to get more women into tech education and careers. Maybe it's just the STEM field, but women have been traditionally underrepresented there and the recent efforts aim to change this.

Personally, I don't think men or women are valued differently; they've just tended to choose different careers, based on their respective talents and abilities. There were also societal pressures. All of this is certainly changing these days.
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