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Default Dec 17, 2021 at 01:12 PM
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Hi folks,

I was thinking about this and wondering if anyone else has experienced this feeling. I recently lost a beloved pet (too soon), and I’ve been extremely depressed for the past few days. I’ve basically left bed to eat a quick meal and gone right back to it.

I’ve made a lot of progress with my depression and experiencing things like this makes me sort of panic. I feel as if one slight relapse (even though due to a legitimate trauma) will send me spiraling back and that I have to force myself to not feel those emotions. It’s a feeling of not wanting to go back to how bad things were. I know it’s also not a healthy thing though and I should feel these things but it’s hard to accept.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our beloved Schnoodle about a year & a half ago now due to a combination of old age & kidney disease. We had him for 14 wonderful years. (He was estimated to have been 2 to 3 years old when we got him.) I still miss him every day.

You mentioned you've made a lot of progress with your depression. But incidents such as this sad loss cause you to fear you'll spiral back and so you feel as though you have to force yourself not to feel your emotions over the loss of your pet. I know how you feel about this. I've written several times here in the forums that I have to keep forcing myself to do what needs to be done day-to-day (as well as to look back as little as possible) because, if I ever allowed myself to let up, I'm afraid of where the bottom might be for me.

You wrote you know not allowing yourself to feel your emotions isn't healthy and you should feel these things. I'd certainly agree with that. And talking through what you're feeling with a trusted friend or family member (or a therapist) would, of course, be one way to process what you're feeling. (I doubt you need me to tell you that.) I do think, based on my own experience, simply having these emotions continue to arise and fade over-&-over in your thoughts isn't helpful. Yes, there is some truth to the old saying that time heals all wounds. But it can take a long time for that healing to occur if you simply continue to deal with what you're feeling alone. So I hope you will be able to find a way to share your grief with someone in real life. Plus, hopefully, writing here in the forums about what you're feeling can be of some benefit as well. My best wishes to you...
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Default Dec 18, 2021 at 04:53 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss.

I don't relate to losing a pet recently, although I did once lose a beloved pet (all pets are of course loveable and special). I could write more but I just want you to know I think (but of course could be ''wrong'') that this is ''normal'' feelings of grief. I suggest allowing all feelings (easier said than done sometimes) .... this helps me sometimes.

Writing here can help also. And of course talking to someone in real life about it.


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