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Default Apr 29, 2022 at 02:18 AM
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Has anyone ever had a bad experience calling these people at crisis helpline? Honestly all of the phone calls I've had with these people leave me feeling worse due to the numerous calls of callous and immature nature of the so-called counselors on crisis hotlines, the NYC wells are the worst yet... They make you wait up to 15 minutes to half an hour waiting for a counselor to come to the phone, in the meantime while you're waiting they keep looping the music and in between you get the same announcements like "Please continue to hold and someone will be with you shortly" and when you finally get a counselor on the phone, they simply just don't give a 💩, will not listen, keep asking me the same questions over like "Are you planning to commit suicide?", "Do you use substances?" All kinds of idiotic 💩! 1 woman counselor ask me if I've been 🍷 that morning which I found totally inappropriate and when I got she hung up on me that I had to file a complaint to the supervisor. I can even hear then 😆in the background when I talk about certain embarrassing/traumatic things. TF! Do all public services in this city just suck? If there's one thing I've learned in my life is that nobody gives a💩 about you or your problems, and you will be looked down on for even mentioning them in passing. The only things people have to offer are vague, generic words of positivity which are total B💩 and about as worthless as the thoughtless clowns you've been dealing with. They say words like "You matter", "You have so much to live for", "Good luck with everything you're going through", etc. It's no wonder there are so many suicides... You can expect the government not be good at psychotherapy or to people with mental health problems...
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Default Apr 29, 2022 at 01:08 PM
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Sadly I have had similar experiences. I could never be a crisis counselor I think, because even when I can feel another person's pain, I never know what to say beyond trite words and platitudes. My heart goes out to you!
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Default Apr 29, 2022 at 01:09 PM
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The only things people have to offer are vague, generic words of positivity which are total B💩 and about as worthless as the thoughtless clowns you've been dealing with. They say words like "You matter", "You have so much to live for", "Good luck with everything you're going through", etc. It's no wonder there are so many suicides... You can expect the government not be good at psychotherapy or to people with mental health problems...
That's the biggest thing for me. They don't really have anything helpful of substance to say or actionable advice on how to improve your situation. They just ask if you are going to kill yourself and tell you it isn't worth it, but no help in stopping the horrible feelings. I guess that would be a hard thing to do though I'd imagine.
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Default Apr 29, 2022 at 03:30 PM
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Yes, it was a horrible experience for me as well.
I don't know why they work in crisis helpline for. Maybe they are students in health care professionals trying to have something to say in their resume.

I wouldn't call again. I guess I can't expect a complete stranger to care about me and have something genuine and sincere to say.

I have realized that I have to be my own counselor. I have to find whatever I am lacking in my life and fill that void. And do what I can for myself but i might not know what i need at times.
And even so, that may not be enough or even possible.
And that might not be possible for others too.
There is no solution that fits for all. Life is complicated.

Yes, it would be nice if people cared but how to find people that care? I don't know but I have to care first because others find it hard to care when someone who struggles with self worth.

Life is complicated. I have met rude doctors and psychiatrists, etc.

They can make me feel worse.

I know people tell me I have to see a health care professional but I haven't found one yet that is good.



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Has anyone ever had a bad experience calling these people at crisis helpline? Honestly all of the phone calls I've had with these people leave me feeling worse due to the numerous calls of callous and immature nature of the so-called counselors on crisis hotlines, the NYC wells are the worst yet... They make you wait up to 15 minutes to half an hour waiting for a counselor to come to the phone, in the meantime while you're waiting they keep looping the music and in between you get the same announcements like "Please continue to hold and someone will be with you shortly" and when you finally get a counselor on the phone, they simply just don't give a 💩, will not listen, keep asking me the same questions over like "Are you planning to commit suicide?", "Do you use substances?" All kinds of idiotic 💩! 1 woman counselor ask me if I've been 🍷 that morning which I found totally inappropriate and when I got she hung up on me that I had to file a complaint to the supervisor. I can even hear then 😆in the background when I talk about certain embarrassing/traumatic things. TF! Do all public services in this city just suck? If there's one thing I've learned in my life is that nobody gives a💩 about you or your problems, and you will be looked down on for even mentioning them in passing. The only things people have to offer are vague, generic words of positivity which are total B💩 and about as worthless as the thoughtless clowns you've been dealing with. They say words like "You matter", "You have so much to live for", "Good luck with everything you're going through", etc. It's no wonder there are so many suicides... You can expect the government not be good at psychotherapy or to people with mental health problems...
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Trig Apr 29, 2022 at 11:04 PM
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All I can say is if things get worse for me,
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Maybe we'll get married in heaven and live happily ever after if there is a heaven? 😢

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Trig Apr 29, 2022 at 11:31 PM
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There is no solution that fits for all. Life is complicated.

Others find it hard to care when someone who struggles with self-worth.

Life is complicated...
That explains why there are so many suicides in the world!
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due to his illness of cancer and the pandemic and I'm still overwhelmed about it! Maybe that would be the answer to my troubles. I can't go on living in misery! This world and my life is too unfair!
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Default May 17, 2022 at 05:10 PM
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I once called a mental health clinic for help at the end of the day. I said hi & told the phone rep why I was calling. She said this to either a co-worker or her supervisor, "We got another one". She didn't even put me on hold so her speech could not be heard. What she said made me feel like I'm just another sheep in the depression community. I understand it was almost time for them to go home but I would've easily accepted an answer like "I'm sorry, at this time of day no one is available to take your intake. Do you think you can hang on til the morning?"
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I've had a similar experience, the samaritans just repeat the same rubbish all the time like "we're listening" but they (in my experience) never actually say anything helpful
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Has anyone ever had a bad experience calling these people at crisis helpline? Honestly all of the phone calls I've had with these people leave me feeling worse due to the numerous calls of callous and immature nature of the so-called counselors on crisis hotlines, the NYC wells are the worst yet... They make you wait up to 15 minutes to half an hour waiting for a counselor to come to the phone, in the meantime while you're waiting they keep looping the music and in between you get the same announcements like "Please continue to hold and someone will be with you shortly" and when you finally get a counselor on the phone, they simply just don't give a 💩, will not listen, keep asking me the same questions over like "Are you planning to commit suicide?", "Do you use substances?" All kinds of idiotic 💩! 1 woman counselor ask me if I've been 🍷 that morning which I found totally inappropriate and when I got she hung up on me that I had to file a complaint to the supervisor. I can even hear then 😆in the background when I talk about certain embarrassing/traumatic things. TF! Do all public services in this city just suck? If there's one thing I've learned in my life is that nobody gives a💩 about you or your problems, and you will be looked down on for even mentioning them in passing. The only things people have to offer are vague, generic words of positivity which are total B💩 and about as worthless as the thoughtless clowns you've been dealing with. They say words like "You matter", "You have so much to live for", "Good luck with everything you're going through", etc. It's no wonder there are so many suicides... You can expect the government not be good at psychotherapy or to people with mental health problems...


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