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@Rose60, sorry for rubbing you the wrong way. That wasn't my intention... very sorry indeed.

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@Rose60, sorry for rubbing you the wrong way. That wasn't my intention... very sorry indeed

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That is past, now, TheGal!


I had a friend once that told me that everything I said was good. After some years the same person told me that he/she had suffered in my company for years and he/she lied to others about me... I have never liked persons that play like an angel in your face while thinking the opposite. (The "devil" in a sheep's clothing). I just want to set the borders proper from the start. It wasn't meant as a smash in your face, just being honest about what I cannot like ...


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omg ... I have fallen into one of my personal traps again. I bought some candy and ate up all this morning. I feel sleepy and unwell ...

Have to be more clever and remember what is NO-NO for me. Never store candy in the home ... I feel ashamed. How could I treat myself so badly?

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Feeling a bit gloomy again. I have a trip coming up next week and have anxiety about it. Lately it's been foggy early in the morning and I hope that doesn't happen on the day I leave. The flights are grounded when it's foggy and that will mess things up for me if that happens. It is a long-distance trip.

I've been feeling down since I let my friend go. He was the only local friend I had. I miss him but not his antics, which have been many. Yet it seems like everything else is following suit as I feel more lonely and notice that my phone hardly rings. Even the scammers are not calling.
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Feeling a bit gloomy again. I have a trip coming up next week and have anxiety about it. Lately it's been foggy early in the morning and I hope that doesn't happen on the day I leave. The flights are grounded when it's foggy and that will mess things up for me if that happens. It is a long-distance trip.

I've been feeling down since I let my friend go. He was the only local friend I had. I miss him but not his antics, which have been many. Yet it seems like everything else is following suit as I feel more lonely and notice that my phone hardly rings. Even the scammers are not calling.

Let us hope that there will not be any fog when the plane is going to take off.


It is not a good thing to feel alone all the time. Do you have any hobbies that you can use as an entrance to a friends club, or can you invest time and money on a new hobby? (Don't mean to be rude, am only offering some "food for thought" if you can use it).

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It is not a good thing to feel alone all the time. Do you have any hobbies that you can use as an entrance to a friends club, or can you invest time and money on a new hobby? (Don't mean to be rude, am only offering some "food for thought" if you can use it).
I prefer not to receive any kind of unsolicited advice. Reading things like this only hurts me. I've tried things over the years and they all didn't work. I don't appreciate being reminded that "being alone is not good for me". I know that and I didn't choose that way of life..
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I can't say that I'm 'up' today... I guess what I'm feeling is dread.

Hopefully, it will lift ... I am waiting for the sun to rise so I can go outside for a bit.

My nerves are quite bad today...
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I prefer not to receive any kind of unsolicited advice. Reading things like this only hurts me. I've tried things over the years and they all didn't work. I don't appreciate being reminded that "being alone is not good for me". I know that and I didn't choose that way of life..

I am sorry that my question hurt you!

My claim about that it is "not good to feel alone", on the other hand, was related to my own experience of former aloneness and how it helped me to join certain "clubs". I could have been more clear about that my "knowledge" of that it is not good to feel alone was based on personal experience. I did not recommend any specific "clubs" to you, but let the question be open and was specific about that I did not want to "be rude" by asking ... if you could use it (so my comment took care of the aspect that you could feel it otherwise than me).

I am so glad that you have specified your borders for what is okay and not. I appreciate honest people.

I'll do my best to remember that advice against loneliness is not wanted by you!

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I am sorry that my question hurt you!

My claim about that it is "not good to feel alone", on the other hand, was related to my own experience of former aloneness and how it helped me to join certain "clubs". I could have been more clear about that my "knowledge" of that it is not good to feel alone was based on personal experience. I did not recommend any specific "clubs" to you, but let the question be open and was specific about that I did not want to "be rude" by asking ... if you could use it (so my comment took care of the aspect that you could feel it otherwise than me).

I am so glad that you have specified your borders for what is okay and not. I appreciate honest people.

I'll do my best to remember that advice against loneliness is not wanted by you!
I have join clubs and other things a lot over many years. I just came up empty each time. And then it got to the point that I just gave up. It hurt more getting out there to try and fail than to not do anything and feel bad about it. I don't know what it is that it seems like people are not crazy about me. As of now, I'm trying to be content in being alone. I had put up with a lot of crap from others so much.

I personally think it's best to never give advice when you are not asked, especially on here. It's rude. I would suggest for you to look up and read articles about giving unsolicited advice. I'm sorry if I'm coming on harsh. It's just that I've had this as an issue for so many years and I don't know how many times I have received advice about it, which is annoying.
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I have join clubs and other things a lot over many years. I just came up empty each time. And then it got to the point that I just gave up. It hurt more getting out there to try and fail than to not do anything and feel bad about it. I don't know what it is that it seems like people are not crazy about me. As of now, I'm trying to be content in being alone. I had put up with a lot of crap from others so much.

I am sorry that it did not work for you. It worked for me. This subject between you and me is passed now. I have said I am sorry, but you haven't even thanked me for trying to be kind ... I will be happy if we can use normal politeness after this, instead of making a mountain ot of molehills.

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I personally think it's best to never give advice when you are not asked, especially on here. It's rude. I would suggest for you to look up and read articles about giving unsolicited advice. I'm sorry if I'm coming on harsh. It's just that I've had this as an issue for so many years and I don't know how many times I have received advice about it,which is annoying.

On what you are writing here we have to disagree to some point: First I did not give you advice. I asked you if you had tried ... Second we are free to tell about what has helped us in our journey (I apologized for having forgotten that, so it is nothing to bring up again). If others will try to do "things" the way that has helped other members, they are free to do so or not to do so.

To give directly advice is not in my pot. With this I hope this discussion is over and that we can behave friendly toward each other when we happen to meet on the threads. I have my own problems to solve and have no time for this ...

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I was in good mood when I woke up this morning, but the day has turned into a sad one. You know when one event triggers events from your past and you are so overwhelmed that you are not able to stop the flow of past hurting events.

That's how I feel now! Hope to be able to use tools to stop this flow of old hurting memories tomorrow. For now I will try to find something to distract and then start anew tomorrow. I am usually good to use psychological tools, but this day I wasn't able.

We are going to have a family gathering this weekend, so I need to be as good as possible to not disappoint the others. That is very important for me!

If somebody pass by and read this, they hopefully have the time to give me an online (((((HUG))))).

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Have anhedonia, as usual. I can't find anything enjoyable. My depression is gone.

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Feeling extremely depressed today. I cancelled my trip that I planned to go on. Now I feel like there's absolutely nothing in my life to look forward to. I didn't think things could get this bad.
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Its hard to tell whats what. I am sick and then I am dealing with my therapist leaving at the same time and then the seasonal stuff is starting.

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I've been doing well. Today I had no motivation and did nothing. But I expect I won't repeat that tomorrow.

I haven't been able to get on this web site with my new phone. So I have to dig out my old phone. That's why I haven't been on much. Plus I've been busy doing stuff because I've been in good spirits.

I see many posters above are feeling down. I've been there. I hope things turn around for you.
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I was planning to go on a longer ride on my bike than usual. It's been a while since I've taken a longer ride. But now the weather is wet and not appealing. Oh well.

I've been feeling down a whole lot lately. Maybe it's because I'm going through some minor griefs. The griefs are loses I've experienced that have been caused by me and it makes me feel horrible. I let go of the only friend I had and then cancelled a trip. It all happened at once.

Another thing with me is I feel like I'm putting forth efforts to better my life and self. I'm coming up empty in my efforts. It's like I'm coming up to bat and striking out all of the time. It seems like other people I'm seeing are doing OK but maybe they're not.
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I am not so sure that this forum is the right one for me. I like it best when I can participate in like-minded relationships, where concern for each other flows back and forth.

I didn't feel that that was what happened on this thread. (My feelings are my own and nobody can protest about that). After all I was relatively new here when one person wanted to discuss "the chicken and the egg" related to the form of therapy I had chosen for myself and another indirectly accused me for being rude! I am not easily offended, but I need some feelings of being among like-mided people. I did not feel that here.

Actually I feel fine, now (beneath the level of mild depression) and have positive expectations for the rest of Authumn and for the Winter.

I will keep my membership just in case, but you cannot expect to see me here often. Send my best hopes for those of you continuing to stay here!

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I am not so sure that this forum is the right one for me. I like it best when I can participate in like-minded relationships, where concern for each other flows back and forth.

I didn't feel that that was what happened on this thread. (My feelings are my own and nobody can protest about that). After all I was relatively new here when one person wanted to discuss "the chicken and the egg" related to the form of therapy I had chosen for myself and another indirectly accused me for being rude! I am not easily offended, but I need some feelings of being among like-mided people. I did not feel that here.

Actually I feel fine, now (beneath the level of mild depression) and have positive expectations for the rest of Authumn and for the Winter.

I will keep my membership just in case, but you cannot expect to see me here often. Send my best hopes for those of you continuing to stay here!
I will miss you Rose60.
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