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Heart May 02, 2023 at 09:01 PM
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Hi I have never been on a site like this before but thought i might give it a try. I am 21 years old and my expectations of how my life would be at this time are not being met. I always thought going to college would mean meeting friends, going to parties, gaining independence, and growing up. my parents recently sent me home becasue I was failing my classes. I understand why this happened but now I have no friends, I have gained a bunch of weight, and have honestly stopped caring about a lot of things that used to be super important to me. I used to care a lot about my image. I would wear make up, do my hair, and try to look nice everyday. Now i dont even brush my hair. I used to care so much about having friends and now I just want to be alone all the time. I feel like now I have less independence than I did in high school. I feel like I can not wake up when I want, eat what I want, say what I want, Or dress how I want. My parents constantly bring me down and tell me im ugly, that no one likes me, and that im too unintelligent to be a normal member of society. I have no money, no friends, and no motivation. i just feel so devastated by what I have done with my life. I always imagined I would be beautiful, skinny, have lots of friends, and most importantly be working on my future at this time in my life. nothing is how I imagined and im heartbroken.
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(((golden retriever)))

So sorry you are in so much pain and turmoil.

It sounds like you're depressed. Do you have a therapist/psychologist you could meet with regularly? Have you talked to your doctor about connecting with a therapist?

When I went to university, I had a difficult time adjusting, I wasn't at all prepared for that next chapter in my life. I thought it would magically all work out. It didn't, and I starting failing classes and fell into a depression.

One thing I've learned in my years is that things don't always turn out the way you think and that we're always learning and growing. Sometimes we fall down, only to find a way back up, sometimes with the help or peers, sometimes with professionals. We all have intrinsic value and deserve to be respected.

I hope you find the help you need and that you'll be able to put up some boundaries with your parents and that they'll be better to you.

Welcome to MSF. Keep posting. There are many different sub-sections to check oout, such as "Relationships and Communication", "Coping with Emotions", "Depression", "Anxiety" and many others.

There is also chat to join in, as well as the Q&A given monthly by DocJohn that can be found in the schedule.

Hope you find the support you need here on MSF.
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