I'm so tired of hearing people say we should not trust our emotions

I hear the same old garbage every time I try to discuss a personal experience. “Do not trust your emotions”

“Our emotions are fickle, fleeting things and it's unwise to trust them. Rather than allow our emotions to control us, we need to consider their consequences. This way we can respond to them more reasonably.”

Please, Do Not Trust Your Feelings | Psychology Today

Why You Shouldn't Trust Your Emotions

Don’t Trust Your Feelings. They’re Often Triggers That Mislead You | by Greg Satell | Medium

When You Shouldn't Trust What Your Feelings Are Telling You | Psychology Today

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With that logic, people insist that our emotions are ALWAYS lying and we should never ever trust them. EVER! Nah, screw the fact that some of us are stuck in places where we can’t get out of such as poverty or abuse! Screw the fact that we are suffering from mental health issues such as depression and anxiety and that it will take us months or even years to recover (or possibly even for ETERNITY)!

Because screw our feelings! What do we neurodivergent people know how our brains work?!

This is sarcasm btw

My point is, the notion that emotions should never be trusted is a load of bs. These examples neurotypical people (not all NT’s) like to give out to prove their point such as having anger issues is not “trusting your emotions”. This is actually a lack of self-awareness they’re describing. IMO,people like Mark Manson like to believe they’re smart by providing stereotypes that stigmatize those with mental health problems, but what they’re actually encouraging is emotional invalidation and suppression. They don’t do enough research to realize there is a difference between trusting your emotions and not having any self-awareness.

And there are people who will complain “why should I validate someone’s feelings since I don’t agree with their experiences? Why should I cater to them when I have a life of my own to worry about? It’s so stupid and means nothing”. Let me tell you something, they have problems of their own as well, why should you expect them to bottle up their emotions and remain silent in front of you just so they won’t destroy your fragile ego? If you think people should just listen to your problems but not give any effort to hear theirs, you’re choosing to be one-sided and inconsiderate.

If you expect everyone to just solve their problems all the time, you’re actually telling them to shut up so you don’t have to listen to them and remain in your bubble. You’re telling us that you don’t care at all about what some of us have to go through, and you only care about anything that involves you.

I cannot stand people who have this mindset, they are unsympathetic and self-righteous to the point where it absolutely infuriates me. I’ve had these kinds of people talk to me in that manner and I blocked them hard. Having emotions is normal for human beings and when you try to constantly suppress or hide them from others, that’s when you start to have problems.

When you tell someone not to trust their emotions, this is where it leads to severe mental health problems (and even physical health). You’re telling men that they should not express their emotions because according to you, they’re the more rational sex. And you’re telling women that even though they’re supposed to be more emotional compared to men, their feelings make them hysterical, obnoxious, and b****y.

Anyway, when you say something like that, you’re causing people’s health to deteriorate. Our minds mean a lot to us, and if we’re not doing anything to harm anyone, then why complain about how we’re feeling is bothering you?

Vent over.

It's normal to have emotions, but the question becomes how does one manage them?

If someone is explosive all the time, then they'll be pushing people away, no?

Still, one needs to look at the reason for anger and seeing if one can find solutions to managing it and expressing it. It sounds like you should have a safe space where you can talk things through, not just be told that you can't trust your emotions. That sounds wrong to me.

I've heard anger is a secondary emotion and that there are primary emotions such as fear that are often behind the anger. Food for thought.

I’m not encouraging anyone to be constantly explosive. Actually the opposite. All I’m saying is that there are times when people have emotions that they know very little about and they’re unable to explain about.

Then a good psychologist should be able to help make sense of the puzzle, and not discounting people's emotions.

People need to be heard in a safe place.

Good post