If I could start my life over

If I could start my life over, I would do it in a heartbeat if I meant I got a second chance. It means I get to make different choices and not the same choices I made before.

If that meant my current life had to come to an end to start over, then it's something that I would willingly accept.

There are decisions that my past self has made that I have since regretted. I am not the same person I was a few years ago, and I have changed since then. I wish my past self had deeply thought about the consequences before making those decisions.

@LonelyLioness01 I am sorry things have happened that you regret. The up side of that when I regret something is I make a determination to not do that action I regret again. That is the first step in having a new life.

You are a different person than you were yesterday or last year or 10 years ago. Nothing and no one stays the same. The conditions and circumstances that led you to act in that way are gone and your regret shows you are not ready to do that again.

So what that says to me is that even if you cannot change some of the consequences of your action, you can start a ne life right now in your mind. You could treat others kindly and see that people make mistakes and let go of that. We all make mistakes. We can correct them also.

I hope that you stay hopeful and have compasson for yourself.

CANDC

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I think we would all do different things with our lives in hindsight and/or knowing how things would play out. This is a completely normal thing and I think about it everyday. Unfortunately I don't think much could be done in my situation to save me or change things but I still dwell on it.

I am not sure I would live my life again, even if I could

It's been such a struggle for me...

not quite sure I'm completely with the dying though. I mean, sure we all do it, I just... I don't know. I just feell strange about it.

I am one of the few people that I know that if they could change their life they would change the outcome.I don't have regrets.I have lessons learned.Sometimes they were at the cost of family or friends or even self but I was still a lesson nonetheless There are a few things.I wish I could take back with everything in me.I wish I could get those moments back that but I Can't so I just have to keep Inhaling and exhaling. Until I let go, but I can't live in the past. No one, can you just have to accept it? That's what it is, and that's why I tell young people be very, very careful. What bridges you burn? Because you never know when you're gonna need to cross it again and everybody says oh well, I'll never ask for that getting well. You might 20 years from now.You know , and if you could come back , you would probably not come back with the knowledge that you have , so you might make the same mistakes , at least thats how I look at it

If i could do it over again i would be much more cautious about romance. The two times i got my heart broken i really suffered and it was all easily avoidable. The first time i can forgive myself for, because the first time you fall in love, you do it without any knowledge of how painful it can be if it fails. But the second time i should have been smarter. I ignored all the warning signs each time.

I also wish i'd been nicer to my parents, especially since i've gotten sicker and it's so hard to take care of myself now. They really worked hard for us kids and i was ungrateful and i regret that.

The thing i am proudest of is that i never had kids. I didn't want to pass my suffering on to them. I got divorced over it, but i'm glad i didn't back down.

There's been a lot of suffering in my life, especially now when i'm getting older and sicker, but it helps to look thru my journals and Facebook page and remember that other times i was more active and life was colorful and rewarding.

I would have made some different choices, for sure. I figured that out after making those choices, but at the time, they were my best choices.

I have some regrets... and wish some events would have turned out differently. Some were completely within my control - others, I had a part.