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Poohbah
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Maybe it’s because I’m a shy introverted person, or maybe I’m becoming wiser & more cynical too, idk, but most people tend to annoy & irrtate me most of the time.
A lot of people seem fake, two faced, untrustworthy, selfish, most of them aren’t that interesting either. Most people seem to have a weird herd mentality & they tend to not like anyone who is different from them in any way. A lot of people seem to be cliquey. Especially women & younger people at times. A lot of people aren’t genuine or kind either. They’ll use you & toss you aside the second they don’t need you anymore. Most people aren’t loyal or trustworthy either. I prefer being by myself most of the time. I still need to socialize with people at times. I feel like giving up on meeting new people as I’m constantly being ignored, dismissed, disrespected, etc… Also, a lot of people cate way to much about your social status & if you’re not popular or if you don’t have the right connections & money, then most people don’t want to associate with you usually as you have nothing to offer them in their eyes. I really hate it when people immediately ask me what I do for a living as it seems like they’re evaluating my ‘worth’. Also, if you have a physical or mental disability, then most people will shun, ignore, mock or bully you & exclude you from everything. My cat is better than everyone, lol. Does anyone else feel like this too? Most people are boring, confusing & they drain me & frustrate me usually. Last edited by jesyka; Oct 10, 2024 at 02:48 AM.. |
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I can definitely relate to so much of what you wrote. Wish I knew what to say to be helpful.
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You have literally said that most people are not much good. That is simply not true. There are rotten people in this world. Anyone you happen to meet could be one of them. But there are also lots of decent people all around us. Many of them are just as good-hearted as you consider yourself to be. There are even people out there who are better than you and better than me.
If you have the idea that most people are not as decent as you, that is going to color how you come across. I don't think you really believe that you're better than everybody else. More likely, you've had some disappointments that have left you very discouraged. I know the feeling. Be careful not to overgeneralize, which is a very human tendency, especially when we've felt let down. Pushing back against the tendency to overgeneralize is taught in cognitive-behavioral therapy. You could explore that with a therapist. Or there are lots of self-help books about CBT that can foster taking a more balanced view of other people and other things in general. I do have a tendency to think along the lines you've described. When I get into that frame of mind, I ask myself if it's really likely that I'm better or nicer than "most people." I can't look in the mirror and say "Yes" with a straight face. Knowing another person takes a good deal of time spent with them. As introverts, we don't get to know all that many people. So we make big judgements, based on very little evidence. Any person you run into may be an angel or a jerk . . . or something in between. You don't know what "most people" are like. Nor do I. However, when I give people a chance, I've had some pleasant surprises. It's good to remember that other people have had hurtful experiences of their own. They don't know whether they can trust you, or me. So they may have their guard up, until we demonstrate that we are not phony or disloyal. |
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I don’t observe or feel that most people are what you described at all. Well I don’t know most people but I know many. Most I’ve met or know are just people with good and bad in them. I’d say most people I meet are more good than bad. I’ve met a few two faced fake people but I can count them on my fingers so there are only a few that I’ve in my life. Some might be boring. The rest aren’t this way. I don’t experience most people disrespecting and bullying disabled population. Most aren’t this way at all.
Having said that, of course sometimes I want to not be around people. Especially after a work week. |
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Lord Sasquatch
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Yes, I feel exactly like that, jesyka. I mean, I do admit that it's only my perception of 'most' people, but it is my perception, too, yes. __________________ "A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it."- Dōgen
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For me it’s better described as sometimes the world feels a bit much for me and I need to be alone. I don’t feel people are bad as such, in fact many people are great people to be with, but even when I love them very much I need that time to myself.
I’m sorry that you had such unpleasant experiences. |
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For me, I need to be alone to recharge before being with people again. I need a lot of alone time.
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But my mood is elevated when I go food shopping. I live in an upscale neighborhood, so maybe the folks I've been smiling at (and who return smiles) are "better." I enjoy the little kids. They'll look at me and squeal something unintelligible at me, so I smile and say "Hi!" Maybe when they see my white beard they think I'm Santa. __________________ Major Depressive Disorder; Sleep Apnea; possibly on the spectrum Nuvigil 50mg; Effexor 37.5mg Wellbutrin 150mg; meds for blood pressure & cholesterol |
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