[Fuzzybear]

re things that I learnt the long, painful, hard way. But I can't influence their choices. I have to watch them be hurt over and over like I was...

[pegasus]

It's hard to watch another in pain.

You are so caring, take care (((((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))))))

[ECHOES]

you can influence their choices and give them good food for thought, but you can't control their actions. xoxoxo

[Christina86]

((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))

Oh boy, do I ever know how that feels.

You're a good friend for caring this much... unfortunately, it's usually the "having to go through it themself" thing that works for people. So sad to watch though, but at least you can be there for them after they've gone through it.

[bipolar_bear]

It can be so painful to watch someone be in such pain and not to be able to help them. Sometimes all we can do is be there for them. You are a good caring friend.

BB

[silver_queen]

((((((((((((( Fuzzy ))))))))))))

You can give ppl all the advice you want... and it might be the perfect advice for them, it might make their lives so much easier if they pay attention for it... but if they feel they don't want to heed the advice there is nothing you can do to stop them... and after all... ignoring advice and making mistakes and having to work things out for themselves might make it tougher for them and you might see them struggling... but from it they might be learning key skills... perhaps?

[Zorah]

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[nowheretorun]

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((((fuzzybear))))))

[Abby]

I understand those feelings fuzzy....i'm not very good at sitting back and watching people make mistakes time and time again but honestly i'd run out of breath before i made them realise.

time for you to take care of yourself fuzzybear - thats one thing you can influence

[BalishBun]

...You can only give them good advice and hope that they follow.

[continuisimprove]

Influencing other people is hard. With kids it's easy. They believe whatever you say, but as people get older the window closes. I think it's unfair, though, when someone is becoming dependent on you, sharing their problems with you, and you're listening to them but then when you try to help they don't listen to you. Communication has to go both ways. If you gave bad advice or too much advice that would be one thing, but if you gave good advice at least they could listen. But yah, I agree with the other posters that most of the time people don't want advice. They want someone to be aware of what they're going through.